What ?!...He Didn't Just Say That

Well, I'm white, but back in college I dated Wendy... a beautiful black woman, with big, beautiful eyes and a "perfect smile". Well, one look at her in her jeans made me hotter than a Phoenix in July. I couldn't make love to her from behind, because I could never last more than about 2 minutes ~ she had one of the most healthy, curvy, athletic butts I have EVER seen on a woman! I used to call her "my tigress"... because she was strong as hell, too. But alas, hot-blooded college flings never last. I will say this, I am so glad I asked her to join me for drinks that night. She was great company, always.

Sure.
I used to think like that when I was in high school.
I agree everyone has their different personalities, but doing things towards certain people because they are a certain race is kinda young. Its actually kinda racist, but I don't think that's your case at all. I say if you're feeling experimental go for if, but I wouldn't tie that to others of his race because everyone is different.

I did pursue it, and sex with that person was. Good, but I think it was because of how into each other we were.
You know sex is mostly mental. If you think it will be good. O. It will be good, and that's promised.
Good Luck


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

Of course it has crossed my mind, but I never thought of it in the way of "to try it, just to try it. "

Yeah it's definitely a thought that has crossed my mind, but I would never be with someone of a different race just to see what it was like. It's not like every white/black/asian/hispanic/etc is alike. There's just as much variety within other races as there is within your own. To say that dating a girl of a certain race NECESSARILY means better sex, better communication, or better anything is absurd. It has more to do with background than race.

Hmm. Maybe its where I'm from, but I've briefly dated/been in longer relationships with 5 guys. Only one was completely white (like myself). While obviously I was conscious of some physical/color differences, race/culture never played apart in my reasons for dating them or what I thought of them. I wouldn't date based on race because really the individual person and their beliefs, interests, goals, values etc matter more to me and I don't believe these things can be linked to race.
I find it worrisome that this guy seems to imply that he thinks dating a "black girl" will somehow be different from dating a "white girl". What sort of stereotypes and expectations does he have? I think it is okay to notice physical differences, but the second someone starts to make general assumptions based on them it is problematic. I don't think he meant it to offend or even realized what he was implying, but this is a dangerous thought pattern to fall into, and I really hope someone takes the time to point that out to him.

I'm black and I've been with white and black guys in relationships. A man is a man. If he's a good man than he's good whether he's white or black or hispanic or asian etc. If he's a player than the same applies. There are some other races that have this "black girl fantasy" and I'm like seriously? Women are women. Granted, we might have a little more attitude but we're all still women. :-)