So, I am "dating" this guy for a monthish. When we started dating he knew I had a "situation" with an ex that I was currently trying to figure out. All month he kept talking about when we were officially together we could share this. Or that. And how much he liked me, and how he wanted to fall in love with me. But he was holding back. And then when the opportunity arose for us to go for it and be together, he totally backed out. Help explain please.
It all falls back to the EX issue. I never talk about my past relationships with the next girl I go out with. It just spells trouble for a future relationship. Your guy is probably thinking that he is losing you since you keep talking about unresolved issues with your EX. If it's SERIOUSLY over with you EX then leave it alone and tell the man you are with the he is the present and your EX is the past.
Well we never talked about the ex at all. He knew I was still talking to him the whole time, but it was very don't ask don't tell. We were never exclusive, I'm sure he was having a good time on his side as well. But he always talked about wanting to be the only one in my life, and when the opportunity came he totally backed out. I don't know why he would fill me with unnecessary lies about how much he was invested in this, if its not true. - 7 months ago
Sounds like the old story. Just another guy for whom talk is cheap and commitment is a four letter word. You are better off without him (really! ). Luckily, not all guys are jerks like this. Here's hoping you find someone better next time. Good luck!
Hmm. Seems like he was playing the 'if only' card. The one where you can say anything you want and make promises that you don't have to fulfill at that moment. Or necessarily, ever.
Sounds like this guy is just an immature retard, who likes to make empty promises.
My opinion, don't waste any more time on him. If he cares to know, tell him that you're not waiting around for him to mature. Go on with your life and don't think of him, if he really cares, and he really ''cannot wait to fall in love with you'', then he'll come to you and beg. If not, he can take his fake proposals and shove em
Yeah, this sounds about right. I just don't know why people say things that they don't need to. I never asked him to be invested. On multiple occasions I told him I understood if he needed to move on, cause I wasn't ready to make a choice yet. But he said no, he understood, and wanted to continue on. But let me know that at some point it would be too hard for him to stay invested if I couldn't commit, and then he would have to move on. - 7 months ago
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I don't understand guys like that. I mean, I get what they're doing, I just can't get the reasoning BEHIND it. It's such a waste of both peoples' times. As a girl, when I've flirted with guys who were getting through an ex problem, I meant every word I said. Then again, I'm a girl.
Nonetheless, I'm sorry this guy messed with your head, I wish I could tell you why this jerk did what he did. I may come back and re-write back to you :) - 7 months ago
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