I've been dating this one particular guy since around March. Our so-called relationship is not exactly one that you can call normal. He wants it as "exclusive dating. " Everyone around me does not understand it because you are either exclusive and serious or casual and open right? I mean, I understand him, he just wants it to be US, but no commitment.
When we first agreed on this, I didn't think that my feelings would grow a little more. However, this guy even sometimes cancels on me to be with his buddies or to do whatever else he wants to do. He chooses surfing or his friends over me. And it seems like he only comes to me when he has absolutely nothing else to do. When we do go out, he complains about how this or that costs too much. He admits he's cheap. Ha.
I know I like him, don't ask me why. I must be nuts. I'm beginning to disrespect him more because he puts me. Well I wouldn't even say on the backburner, I'm more of like on the oven rack. Some tell me to let him go, tell him go and find someone better if he can't appreciate me. I've never felt lonely while being involved with someone ever. He claims that since I'm transferring to the UC in a few months, he wants to keep it simple and casual, yet exclusive. Still though. The "relationship" is pretty much pathetic. We hang out once a week on average. He maintains control of when we DO go out too. When I ask, he turns me down a lot. So. This is my first time. And it's def. Strange. What do you say I should do about this crazy guy?
I would say just hang out with him as a friend. He doesn't have any desire for something serious, even though he claims to. Take all this free time you have to plan fun and exciting things for yourself when you get to UC.
You may hate me for this answer but sounds like he is trying to control the relationship so as not to get hurt. I think if he truly wanted you he would show some appreciation. If a guy truly cares he will take what you think and feel in to consideration and not put you off like that. If your feeling lonely when you do go off your going to probly find someone that does appreciate you for you. Also how do you know he does not got another girl in the wing so he is controlling the relationship to keep it quite. Does he ever take you to meet his friends?
Does he chose places where you would not bump into friends? If you really like him take a stand there is nothing worse for a girls self esteem then being put on the rack, that is like saying he is saving you for a rainy day and you can feel it. If you want to give it a go then go to him and say hey lets get together with your buddy's and do something that does not cost. If he turns that down then get out why you still got your pride. Hope that helps :)
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