Alright so I've been working on this girl for a while now. We went for ice cream once which went pretty well and our friends have chilled twice since that and both times went very well (she paid almost all her attention to me and was definitely flirting) we talk pretty much everyday. The problem is she's very busy so it's hard to hang with her. So I figured I'd have to ask her to do things (such as the ice cream "date") so last weekend I asked her to see a movie, she already had plans (which were legit) then this week I asked her if she wanted to do something after she was done at work but she said she had a lot of homework but would let me know. So while she was at work I asked her friend if I'd be wasting my time to ask her to chill again and she said she really didn't know how she felt about chilling like that because they haven't talked bout that but she really did have work to do.
So I decided I should put the ball in her court and tell her I could chill anyday this week except wed and for her to let me know when she wants to chill so I tell her this and she says alright and then that ended cause she "brb'ed" to watch her show came back and it was a normal convo. So now I'm freaking out cause I feel like I jumped the gun in telling her this since both time I asked bout chilling she had legit things to do and I'm thinking well she's the girl so I feel like she doesn't feel comfortable asking for plans (or I'm totally wrong about that? - let me know)
So I was wondering since I'm thinking that even though I put the ball in her court would it still be ok to "take the ball back" and one night be like yo want to chill tomorrow night? Or I have to leave it up to her?
And say I don't say anything all week and she doesn't bring up chilling then at the end of the week do I ask her bout that? As in should I ask her if she just doesn't want to chill? In regards to that I feel like if I say something it could cause awkwardness whereas if I just leave it and stop pursuing her it just dies out with no awkwardness. Or should I just let it go and ask her that week or the next week to chill? (since both times I asked she actually had shit to do- wasn't just making excuses to not hang out)
Wow, I thought just girls over-analyzed these kind of situations! LOL. But it is cool, it definitely shows that you like this girl.
I think you made the right decision and put the ball in her court. DO NOT pick that ball back up and take it away from her. You really need to let her make the moves from here on to really understand how she feels about you. How she responds to you will tell you your answer and no matter how many opportunities you present to her, it all depends on whether she is interested in you or not.
So let it be. If she wants to make time for you in her crazy schedule, she will. If she can't because other things are more important to her, then you got your answer. But you can always make little appearances to help remind her (if she is that overwhelmed with her schedule).
Well bud I have to say girls are the busiest people around we go out so much and then we always have work to do also I say at the end of the week ask her out again not aggressively or eagerly but just hey do you want to type thing and if she's busy then ok now it all depends if you really like her if you do and think she's worth it then wait out her busy schedule and just help her through all the stress in fact I would say this is the best thing to do tell her that the next day she is off you want to take her out for a stress free day tell her she doesn't need to dress up cause she's beautiful already and then plan a day of just pampering her and be sure to tell her its a day when she doesn't need to think about anything and just plan some really cute things such as make pottery together or learn how to do something together like take a class or a good walk and truly learn about each other and I'm sure she will love it so good luck
I think there's nothing you can do until this week pass, and see if she chill with you. If she doesn't then it could means she's not interested then next week you can take the ball back out and maybe try take it slow.
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