This girl I've known since Junior has practically become my best female friend. We've texted each other every day, hung out outside of school from time to time. I'll be honest, I've fallen for her. Hard. I fall asleep thinking about her, and her face is what comes to mind when I wake up.
Senior year is winding down, everyone is getting ready for prom. I asked her in April if she wanted to go with me, but she shot me down a few days later (through a text message instead of calling me or something, if that means anything). She's going with her ex-boyfriend, whom I've met, he seemed like an ok guy so I shrugged it off as a whatever.
However, she always stressed to me how he's such an asshole to the point of verbal abuse. Hence why she broke up with him. Apparently he asked her to prom while they were still going out and the tickets were already bought, limo paid for etc. I guess she's just looking out for him, spending all that money and all.
A few weeks later, we don't chill as often, we don't talk as often, hell we don't even see each other as often. It feels like she's slipping away. The last thing we did was get ice cream late at night, and even then she didn't have anything and wanted to go home right after. Again, I shrugged it off as she was tired or something.
She then texted me about how her ex went through her phone and finding text messages of two people he doesn't like (she didn't specify if I was one of them). Since that whole conversation it feels like she's been drifting away from me.
With senior year closing, would it be wrong to her how I feel?
It's been such a great friendship now, and if I lost it as school ended I'd feel horrible, but being near her with all these feelings inside is eating me alive. Is there a way to find out how she feels about me without making our friendship completely awkward?
I say go for it boy. Since most friendships don't last too long after high school anyway, what's the worst that could happen? You'll kick yourself later if you don't. There's no way to be "subtle" about this either, like that other girl said. Senior year ending, you don't have time to beat around the bush. Seriously, just go for it! :o)
You could always look for subtle hints :] Like the way that she goes out to get ice cream with you late at night. There could be other hints she's giving: ex. If she values your opinion over a lot of things, if she likes hanging out with you, if she goes out of her way to talk to you. Seeing how she's taking her ex to the prom, she might feel awkward spending time with you since of it. If you feel as though she's slipping away, then plan something like a movie night or anything to spend more time with her or ask her about it when you guys are eating ice cream or something. You could tell her how you feel, of course it wouldn't be wrong to express your feelings! But if you are unsure if it will ruin your friendship or not, you could try hinting/joking about it and see how she reacts. Good luck though! :)
She used to go out of her way to talk to me, she almost got fired at work for texting me during hours. Now its like I barely see her or talk to her, and I feel that if I called her or text her I'd just make her annoyed or something. - 6 months ago
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Aww I see. You should talk to her though, take her someplace nice and you two should talk xD communication is important. - 6 months ago
As a guy who is "the best guy friend" who has fallen for the girl before I only have one question for you. When you asked her to prom did you emphasis the whole "just as friends" thing or just flat out asked her to prom. If you didn't emphasis the friend part and she is doing all of this, generally it means that she has figured it out and is avoiding you because she doesn't know how to act/reply to your affections. Possibly it could also be that the ex is threatening to harm you if she doesn't stay away from you. Finally she could be blind as a bat and you are going to have to let her know and find out afterwards how she feels.
As far as not making the friendship awkward goes, simply say after you tell her your feelings that regardless you still want to continue the friendship. It may take some awkward time, but hopefully (if she's mature enough) your friendship can get back to the way it was.
I asked her as casually as I could. But didn't emphasize the "just as friend's" part. I think she knows how I feel but she hasn't acted any different since then. But the slipping away thing is making itself more apparent. - 6 months ago
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Well generally unless you blatantly say "hey I like you as more than a friend" as a rule, there is always a slight chance that they didn't get the hint. They are as confusing to us as we are to them. - 6 months ago
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