Why does a man have to be the first to come up to a woman?

It just happened like this for so long which is kind of annoying and I wish girls could go up to guys and ask them out or tell them how they feel without it being weird. In my case when I like a guy I like to tell them how I feel and usually I will do it first. But then people are telling me I'm chasing the guy, "if there was chemistry there he would come up to me. "they say. It's not like I'm out looking for him every second of my day and calling him none stop and leaving no time for himself. I hate how people think emotions are embarrassing. I think people should be proud of how they feel, especially about love because love is special. You get rejected a few times but you get over it and move on.

I really don't know either. When I wait for a guy, I just want to be sure that the guy is interested in me so I don't break my heart in the process. Precaution I suppose.

I don't know. That's gay. In about 65 or so % of my situations I'm the one to approach the guy. Usually its because they are slow and can't take a hint. Once they realize I'm interested its a piece of cake. I guess its because we sometimes can't tell if you are interested.