Why don't men my age wanna date mommies?

Hell I find women who have had kids sexy just to let you know

I have to agree with tegdim, if a guy were to hit it off with you and it came down to the idea of possibly marriage, and yes even though both of your boys have fathers the norm I think is that the woman not so much the man has primary custody of the children, there are of course those rare circumstances where the man has custody of the kids. But again even though they have their own father what guy wants to raise in the sense of providing in general food, shelter, clothes etc for another mans children. I could be way off with this but perhaps that is what some women and maybe even men don't want to admit is the reason to not date a woman with kids. I guess sure there is that factor of more often than not its not exactly easy for a single mother who works,and or goes to school as well to find a babysitter for her to go out date and whatnot which can be a barrier.

Who wants to deal with extra baggage and being ranked 3rd in a woman's life.

Maybe the guys you dated want a family with just you and him, not other man's kids. Usually guy who date at age 23-27 will start to look for a stable relationship.

Although I'm 33 now, when was in my mid to late 20's, I met a lot of single moms and I dated 2 of them; here is why I realized single moms were not for me:
---Going on a date meant that first, a baby sitter needed to be found and if there was no baby sitter then, what we could do was hang out at her home and most of the times, the time was spent baby sitting the kids, and by the time the kids went to sleep, mommy was looking so tired, that I felt bad hanging around and it was best to leave so she could rest.
---One of the things is I love to do is traveling; previous to the single moms, I dated girls who would love to go on road trips; obviously, I couldn't do that with the single mommies because as you know, most kids have a routine, and going to a place to wander around and do spontaneous things, was definitely not an option; also going on field trips is not as romantic when the kids are around; and , I'm talking about a dating relationship, not a father and mother relationship where field trips are family dates.
---One of the girls I dated that was a single mom---her breakup with the ex was not a friendly one, and hence, a lot of what I heard had to do with the drama going on with the ex, or the past, and of course, the kids always brought up daddy somehow; well, at the time, I didn't have the patience to be compared to daddy, cause I was not a daddy, and kids will always be kids! :)
---As much as you say that you're not looking for a father, and that the kids already have a father, because of whatever reason, kids do get attached; I always have a good time with kids, and it goes to the length that I did feel responsible for those kids. AT the time, I was in school, working full time, and trying to advance in my job career. Many times I would go to my exes house to spend time with her, but I didn't have the patience to play with the kids or pay them attention, but I know that has a negative effect on them, so I did my best to entertain those kids, but inside of me I thought, 'i don't have the time and patience for this. I can't be doing this. "
----So after having dated single girls that had no kids, and after dating single moms, I decided: With so many beautiful, single women out there, why complicate my life with a single mom when there are all these single women out there that don't have any kids?
Easy choice, as you can see.

To me mother (mommies) turn me on because it shows me their stable and loving but still needs a man in her life I don't have any kids but one day I would but if they accept that then their stupid I would love to b a father even if it would have to be step!

Usually when guys see that a woman is a single mother, they think "baggage" right off the bat. Most younger guys especially aren't ready or aren't thinking about that kind of responsibility because when you accept a person with children, it's a package deal. It's also unhealthy for the children if they see mommy going from guy to guy. I didn't mean that in a slutty way either, just that if they don't have a consistent father figure in their life, they may blame you for that and maybe the guys don't want to be responsible for that if it doesn't work out.
Also maybe because you are a young mother with 2 boys from 2 different guys(I'm assuming because you said they have fathers. As in plural daddies) That may be what is turning them off from you. My mom is a single mother of 4 from 2 different dads and she's had to deal with that a lot over the years. But she's in a healthy relationship now and I couldn't be happier for her.
There's hope and you'll find your man one day. Just don't look so hard and he'll come to you. Good luck and Happy Mother's Day!

Although I'm a girl I think the reason they don't date mommies is because the first that comes into their mind is that they're looking for a dad to help them but they don't know that you just want to date and have a real relationship. They are just afraid of it all. Keep looking and I'm sure you will find a guy that loves you and your boys