How do I have an actual conversation with my boyfriend?

I think that's normal.

The first time I dated a girl, I was on the phone with her for 3 hours (once or twice). I quickly realized that it wasn't healthy, and we both needed to stop talking so much. I could see her for a few hours once a week, and say all I needed to.

You don't need to spend hours on the phone, especially not every day. Any relationship is going to have that period where you don't want to spend hours on the phone. And if you have the time to spend hours on the phone every day, you're probably letting some other things suffer.

The relationship can still be great and the phone calls short. My opinion is that there needs to be a lot more things that you both are doing (on your own) so that when you see each other, you can have something to say.

You need time apart to learn to appreciate the time you can have together. Makes it more precious that way, and you both are learning, maybe improving yourselves, hopefully using the time to become more interesting people.

Silence on the phone is generally a normal thing, everyone has those awkward silences

Guys are not phone conversationalists at all, my Girl and I have this same exact problem. We find that substance within other conversations helps to ease this. If you see him face to face much then be sure to get in the words that you want to then. Make those moments more meaningful and the phone thing will seem obsolete.

Good Luck!

that's the problem stop talking to him on i'm so much cuz at night when its really time 2 talk you have nothing 2 say cuz you been talking to him on i.m all day try not to be up under him like that and when you spend time don't spend 2 much meaning when ppl see ur boyfriend they shouldn't always see u.me n my boyfriend had that same exact problem but you should really take dis into consideration!

Hey you, my boyfriend read your entry and he wanted me to give you an answer. I d/k why that's just a guy 4 you. N e who, my boyfriend jaimie and I used to have the same problem. It may sound weird and uncomfortable but ask him say, "why don't we talk as much as we should in person? " it will work and possibly make your relationship stronger. You say you I'm all the time. Not trying to be a smart as* or nothing but maybe you I'm to much. Try saving some of the things you would normally I'm about and hold it until you do finally talk. Also, find things he's into. You know, guy stuff that us chicks know nothing about. Then talk about it. I promise that if he's that into it he will jump right in. And last thing. If you get tired of talking bout him all the time then secretly and slowly bring yourself into the conversation by maybe comparing yourself to him or what you like or your into to the stuff he likes or is into. If the conversation gets slow and quiet then just say little things like you love him or miss him or what your planning at the movies or on your next date. Trust me, he likes to hear your voice as much as you like to hear his.

With luck,
lizz