He was hungover and not feeling well, but we, good friends, wound up "falling asleep" in the same bed after a party.
His shoulders ached from working out, so I massaged them and his back. He then turned over and I massaged his chest, stomach and. Down below. He was very small and flaccid, and when I asked him if it felt good, he said "yea, but ya know the alcohol is a relaxer. And" (he was trying to NOT be embarrassed that he couldn't get hard). I said "oh, of course, I just want to make you feel good" and kept massaging his thighs and pelvis and back up. Ya know. I leaned up to kiss him, and he did kiss me back, a quick nibble peck, but not a make out.
He didn't touch me. At all. I was fully clothed. He didn't even make an effort to put his arms around me. And we didn't kiss again til next morning when I leaned up to kiss him and he didn't pull away, but didn't engage. He's not a "jerk", he just has a lot going on with family issues, etc, and is a gentleman opening doors and such.
I just don't know (well, maybe I have an inkling) that he isn't interested in me sexually (I'm a thicker, voluptuous girl, and his last girlfriend was thin with small boobs) but he and I have fun, and he trusts me with his personal aspects of his life, and he always stares at me at work and I'm a very good friend that he relies on. We talked about this episode not ruining our friendship, but we have a lot in common and I think that if we had more focused time together, he might begin to see me more like a girlfriend, less like a friend.
We talk and text alot, and he is constantly trying to see if I'm impressed by what he does, like showing me his bodybuilding photos from 4 years ago. Am I delusional?
It sounds to me like he enjoys having your attention and admiration, which at first blush might suggest he was interested. However, his utter lack of response sounds like he's just not interested in building any kind of romance with you, at least not now. Still, its not uncommon for guys to want a little bit of that tension in their otherwise platonic relationships with women and in general terms, who doesn't like their friends to be impressed with them?
If you value the friendship, you have to let this pass and just be friends. If you can't do that then you have to tell him ALL of how you feel about him because its just going to eat you up the longer you harbor it inside. The longer you go without telling him how you feel will only widen the gap between his expectations and yours. Whether he starts dating someone else or you don't get the response you want the next time you're taken to "probing" him again(either feigned interest or outright rejection), its going to be even harder to come back from.
It will either happen or it won't, but you have to be straight up with a man. It took me 7 years to finally piece together that a very special friend I worked with loved me and wanted me romantically but could never tell me because I had "so many other things going on." That doesn't mean you should be reckless when you fully disclose to him, but don't wait too long if, after deliberate soul searching, you know you want ALL of him. And if you don't really want all of him and the buddy hook-up didn't happen... so what. You'll still be friends and you'll both know exactly how far that goes.
We hung out again, had fun with listening to music, a little jack daniels and a hotel room. And we hung out with some other people at the hotel. He held my hand, gave me hugs and kept commenting about how great the weekend was. We pecked a few times, and cuddled a bit on the couch by the hotel pool, but that's it. When we slept, I put my head on his chest and his arms were up under his head/pillow, but that's how he sleeps. The next day we hung out at his apartment pool and got burgers. What now? - 4 months ago
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OK, well this is the last post I'll send. He sent me an email confirming that he wants to be friends, and "apologizing" if I took it to be more than that. He appreciates my friendship and noted that when things go wrong, friendships rarely survive, so he wants to keep that in tact. I'm a bit embarrassed at my assumption, but his touching/kissing is more than I do with my "friends" so I feel justified in my awkwardness. We work together, so it's been a difficult morning, but I'll be OK. - 4 months ago
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It's been awkward...but it had to happen. You were right. - 4 months ago
This sounds weird to me. I think he doesn't like you romantically. I know sometimes it's difficult to get it up after drinking, but the little kissing or touching thing seems like a red flag.
I guess it couldn't hurt to try again and see if you get different results.
We hung out again, had fun with listening to music, a little jack daniels and a hotel room. And we hung out with some other people at the hotel. He held my hand, gave me hugs and kept commenting about how great the wknd was. We pecked a few times, and cuddled a bit on the couch by the hotel pool, but that's it. When we slept, I put my head on his chest and his arms were up under his head/pillow, but that's how he sleeps. The next day we hung out at his apartment pool and got burgers. What now? - 4 months ago
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