What to do!

It sounds like you are relatively new to the dating thing. This can be quite awkward for both of you. If your english is a bit scratchy then this can also be just a minor problem. Communication is always difficult with folks of other cultures. My solution to this is to learn the asian languages. Studying japanese, chinese and spanish(I may add in korean later on). IT REALLY WORKS! I have gained lots of interests from asian folks just thru language exchange!

Most men do not like to talk on the phone all that much unless it's about sports. Try to learn more about him and what he likes but make sure he's paying attention to you and learning about you as well. This way, the talks can be much more interesting. You must learn more about him and spend time together than phone time. Phone dating sucks grease pits with dead mice.

I am happy to know that you are practicing diversity. There is still too much racism in the world. I truly wish the best for you(^_^)

When it comes to conversation and being over the age of twenty you have a ton to talk about. Ask about his past, favorite teachers, best birthday, hobbies he enjoys, favorite movie, song, band, color. You could talk about serious issues like abortion or politics or religious views to see if you guys agree on the big stuff before getting too attached. Never hurts to spends some more time with him either! =)

All my white friends have yellow fever. They will do anything to make you happy.

Cut down the phone time, see him face to face. You'll have more to say.

Good luck

I'm not sure about the race thing, but do you really want to go out with a guy who obviously has such a different outlook on life? There are white guys who aren't drunk partiers!

First off, boring silences may be a sign that you are not compatible but more likely that, and this is from my experience, guys don't like talking on the phone for an extended period of time. And yes, you say you talk on the phone a lot, but that doesn't mean he truly enjoys it, however, for the effort he has put forth to talk to you on the phone could be a sign that although he would prefer to talk to you in person, he is willing to do so until you are comfortable enough to hang out more in person. ( I do admit that I could be wrong when I say he doesn't enjoy talking on the phone as you would with your grandmother. There always are exceptions. I just find them rare).

I have enjoyed your question so much. I am from the Philippines but I was adopted by white Americans. I look different on the outside but feel "american" and on top of that "white" on the inside. "white" should not be used to express how I feel but I know that you know as we both know its in reference to our upbringings, standards instilled by their opinions of right. No one guy is different from the next, a broad generalization, in which I mean that you should be yourself and no differently than you would with the next guy. If I a guy from a different culture takes interest in you he is tossing caution to to wind ruling out your idea that he has to have some special formula to deal with you. He knows your different. I have always been more concerned about interracial dating. Not because of the person I am with or where they are from, but because of what we perceive to be as some invisible wall we have to climb to prove to society that it's ok, not to mention who my family deems acceptable and its the same worry. My parents are always worried, not about the guy but the guy's family which entails numerous things from religion, acceptance, views on educational achievements making the situation more confusing for they find it hard to believe that others not coming from their upbringing have no reservations of my ethnicity.

Not to carry on for we could always go in circles, a series of events towards the end of my nineteenth year lead me to have take a no BS policy. Putting stereotypes aside and family views, contemplating these things waste my time and I loose out on just enjoying the person that I like/want to be with!

Try talking to him in person and maybe you guys can try going out. Who knows, if he likes me he could probably change. I am white and went out with a black guy who wanted me for sex and did drugs but I told him I wanted to wqit for marriage and he stopped buggin me about it and changed his ways for me and we ended up going out for year and a half. But give him a chance and see if he changes.