A series of questions for men about their behaviors?

1. Not being free. Most guys go through this anywhere from 3mo to 1. 5y into a relationship. This is usually the toughest time in a relationship for both parties.

2. Not talking about what's bothering her, not thinking that what you say is what you mean and having her family control her life.

Girls need to be me more direct with guys. A subtle nudge isn't a sign for guys it just means that it's something that's on her mind. Be direct, and show how much something is bugging you! I've had girls second guess me one what I tell them. I don't say "I love you" in front of people because I don't mean it. Also if a girl is completely controlled by her family then it's almost as if the guy is being undermined and he sees little future in their relationship if she can't distance herself from her family. We have a hard time being directed from our GF's we can't handle being controlled by their families.

3. I usually tell her straight out what is going on. If she keeps on being clingy I do tell her that It isn't fair to her and she deserves someone who is able to love her as much as she does. It's something that's hard but it makes it better in the long run (can't stand cheating).

4. I would see if there are ways we can work on it. Once it is to a point where there is no more compromise or talking I end it. This usually takes about 1-3 mo to figure out.

5. I think the importance of marriage is that the person is bound to the other. I would want to get married but only after dating for awhile (3-5y)

6. Not outright but close. Other girls who know I had a Girlfriend tried to get me to dump her and would even go so far as invite me over in the middle of the night. The trick is to have enough self control to be able to avoid the situations because if you get there then there is only one head thinking.

7. Him being distant, not giving her enough attention. Not calling when he says he does. Making excuses to hang with his friends all the time when he was spending most of his time w/you before.

8. Doubts about himself and the relationship. It's almost like the whole "grass is greener" scenario.

9. Relationship, Sex is great and I would want a great sex partner but a relationship helps make the sex even better.

10. When I see that they have something to offer in a relationship. I don't want to put in 100% when they only want to put in 50%.

11. Want to be with me and make time for me. Be considerate and tell me not to worry about things that may come up.

12. If I want to spend time w/her! I don't go out of my way to spend time with girls. If a guy is trying to make conversation w/you or include you on activities he is probably interested.

13. I would say probably 3mo to a year. This way you really get to know the person. I don't want a whole bunch of drama because she didn't know certain things about me. Also this will allow that struggle period for guys when they are deciding if they want to continue the relationship.

26-27

1) I dun want a second mom
2) let her family run her life
3) I'll just tell her frankly things are not working out
4) ASAP
5) I dun plan to get marry
6) yes
7) lack of sex
8) on my case. Is our love ran out.
9) freedom
10) N/A to me
11) get to know me deeply
12) you see me show up more often
13) NEVER!
14) don't apply to me
15) love never stop

Age: 25

1. Being able to maintain a healthy relationship and still be able to do well in a graduate/professional school.

2. Lie or play mind games, both are signs of immaturity.

3. Just be straight forward and let her know it didn't work out. It may suck but being honest ends up working out best imho.

4. See 3.

5. Yes

6. No

7. A sudden change in behavior towards her and a reduction in time spent with her because they're "busy" doing something else.

8. Because there is something missing in the current relationship and they're unhappy or they're just plain fools.

9. A good relationship leads to sex, not the other way around.

10. When I feel that they've truly got potential to be the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

11. Being genuinely genuinely interested and caring about what's going on in my life. Being interesting and able to show signs of thought and opinion.

12. I think its safe to say that we're creatures of habit and a sudden change in our habits could be an indication of interest, especially if it involves changing their daily routine/schedule consistently to spend time with the girl.

13. Having been raised in a Christian family and "old fashioned", not until we were married.

14. After

15. Doing something for her that takes her breath away and knowing that she'll remember it fondly for the rest of her life.

1. Letting a person down if our involvement doesn't match
2. Start crying
3. No excuses. If something specific happened - I'll talk straight about it. If I lost interest - my behavior should organically show it.
4. As short as possible
5. No.
6. Yes
7. Locked cell phone
8. Because they can & because they're unhappy
9. Relationship
10. Consistently good time when together. Consistently crappy time when apart.
11. Be genuine and have something to say.
12. Catching each other's glances in a public place.
13. A year
14. Yes
15. Something you do for the person as much as for yourself.

1. I fear that a breakup is inevitable (SP?)
2. Be unfaithful
3. The one time it has happened I've just stopped calling and when she called I told her it was over... pretty mean but it seemed right at the time.
4. A week tops.
5. Yes because of tax breaks... no just kidding. Despites my fears I still have hope that the idea of soulmates is real.
6. Nope. Will not either.
7. Small lies and lack of interest.
8. Don't know... maybe self image issues or just plain old boredom.
9. Relationship.
10. I wake up and think about them instantly between 3 and 4 days in a given week.
11. Give me attention.
12. Calling alot, stares (not in the creeper way), rambling on and on (shows nervousness about impressing her)
13. For me years. or maybe just when it feels right.
14. Before... you don't buy a car without sitting in the drivers seat and taking it for a spin.
15. Taking a girls breath away or making her weak at her knees.

1. The thought that the girl might be jealous and not let you see other girls or even other friends.

2. Do things that hurt herself. I guess I'm kinda hypocritical, because someone I'm in love with did many such things, but she hated that, so I guess it kind of balances out. Another thing is have RADICALLY differing opinions from me. That sounds bad, but if I can't see eye to eye with someone, I can't be attracted to them as easily. Luckily for me, I'm really wide minded. Also, being a slut is something I can't stand, even if most of the other things she does turn me on.

3. I've never dated, but when I'm close to a girl, and something happens, I have to admit that I am an immature proponent of the cold shoulder technique, so either no excuse at all or any I can get.

4. Hmmm... again, speaking from no experience here, I have to say I'm not sure, but... I kind of doubt that I would keep it going long, because I don't know how much I could really offer to the girl, if I wasn't attracted to her.

5. Yes. I like the idea.

6. Never had one. But I don't think I could cheat with any intention.

7. Can't say for sure. But my guess would be the same signs that he didn't like her anymore, even if that's not the case.

8. Because they don't care enough about the girl to think about how she would feel if she knew, but they do care enough not to want to crush her by letting go.

9. Relationship. There's always masturbation.

10. attraction in as many ways as possible. Even if she doesn't share my views (like stated above) if she makes me think, it's great anyway.

11. Get along with me really well, not do a lot of the things that annoy me, and have a good deep talk with me once in a while.

12. Well, if I'm interested in them, I will usually make contact with them first. Whether on Myspace, aim, phone, in person, whatever. I guess you could call me shy, but if I like a girl enough that I would go out with her, I would talk to her spontaneously once in a while. I'd talk about deeper things, like philosophy on life, and things like that. Hugs. 'nuff said. These are more things that I might do to other friends, but if none of this is you, I'm probably not "interested."

13. Not sure. When I think I'm ready, and when it's conceivable that she might be, I'd kinda run it by her. I wouldn't wait until it was obvious that she was ready, because she was probably ready long before then, and is just trying as a last ditch effort to let me know without telling me.

14. Doesn't matter. If we're in love, but kinda too young to get married without anyone asking questions, then before. But after marriage is fine, too.

15. Caring, and surprise. That sums it up, I think.

1. I'm not really afraid of a commitment, the problem is finding that special someone to make a commitment to.
2. Have attitude.
3. No excuses is not working out.
4. Try not to drag it just end it.
5. No I would like to get married sometime that should be both of us agreeing to it.
6. No
7. Not wanting to be with her anymore.
8. Because they want to.
9. A relationship. If you want to enjoy sex you need to have a good relationship.
10. When there a spark from the beginning.
11. To love me for who I am.
12. Trying to spend time together.
13. Long time until we are BOTH ready.
14. I have lived with my first love for a while now I just would like to it the right way.
15. I have been in love and do surprising romantic things for your love.