Been friends with this girl at work for over five years and I've crushed on her for many of those years. Recently we've been talking more, doing lunch and even went to the movies once but as "friends". When she talks about the type of guy she wants to be with in my head I always think that that guy is me. OPEN YOUR EYES I think to myself. How do I open her eyes?
We talk a lot at work but she hardly replies to texts after hours. I joke that she is a bad texter backer but she says that she doesn't respond back because I didn't ask a question. She never initiates the conversation.
Yeah.I agree that she probably already knows very well that you like her, but is trying not to show it since then you'd get your hopes up and she has nothing to give you except her friendship.
Hmm.I was in a similar situation with a guy friend of mine and I'd say be careful. I was friends with this guy for 3 years, he hung out a lot, my friends and his friends, and he was like just another girlfriend to me. I had fun with him and he was a good friend. However I was NEVER interested in him in that way. This is the clincher: If I had been - I could never have been so relaxed around him like that, and I would have constantly been looking for ways to get us alone and get us together. Anyway so we were friends, I had a feeling he liked me cos he paid me a little too much attention. And to divert his attention and show him subtley I wasn't interested - I would point out to him who I liked (something a girl would NEVER do if she were into you). I even kissed one of his friends. But anyway, after 3 years asked me out one day out of the blue. I couldn't beleive it. I'm not the type of girl who flirts needlessly with her male friends and I was always very careful around him anyway because I knew there was something there. But still he got the wrong impression. Moral of the story: when you really like someone - you can sometimes see what you want to see. If this girl liked you she would have made a play for you somehow by now. No matter how shy she is. However if you do feel you should pursue this - be prepared for the friendship to suffer for a while if it doesn't work out. I was awkward around this guy for months afterwards - and we were close friends.
Not impossible to move up, but I wouldn't say that it looks good. I don't get the texting thing. What are you texting to her that isn't a question? I could be overlooking something, but that sounds a bit awkward. If you're trying to move the relationship forward you should be opening conversation up, not sending things that don't lead to any good response.
Five years and nothing special had occurred yet? Forget her. It should have happened back 4 years ago. Women are far more strict about who they will get involved with then men are. Once a woman makes her decision of yes or no; it's settled. NOTHING will change her mind, and I mean nothing will no matter how much time is spend together. Disbelieving? read enough posts on this website along from the women and it will confirm this. They say it all the time. So I suggest to enjoy the friendship as is and find someone else who could gain interest in you. Women are not blind nor are they stupid, she knows about you and has made her decision.
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