Here's the deal. I have been dating this great guy for about two months now. He's quite a bit older then me, has always been a bachelor, and is very involved with volunteer activities/work (runs his own business). I have heard from mutual friends that he hardly ever dates, and that he has been hurt in the past.
We have been seeing each other steadily for about two months now, he has not been seeing any other women beside me and does not say so, but does not like me seeing/talking with other men. He always treats me very well on dates, returns my e-mails and phone calls very quickly, and helps me out when I need help with something.
To me, things are going very slow, but as time goes by he gets increasingly more open and more warm with me. He is a guy who is very reserved and guarded with everyone, but has opened up to me in ways he does not with our mutual friends. He is also very busy with a life style that he had way before he met me, so when he gets busy, I don't take personally, when he is out on a date, he is focused solely on me.
I have no doubt that he cares for me, but sometimes its just hard not seeing him as much as I would like to, but I guess then again, its only been two months, and if he hasn't dated a lot it will take him a while for him to transition from non dating to committed relationship.
Can anyone offer any suggestions for this situation?
Yes, it sounds like you have an attraction for this guy. To be fair, is it more than that? I mean do you see yourself just with this guy seriously or just for now? That is so great that he is devoted to you. If your not sure how you feel, tell him you don't want to hurt his feelings in anyway, but you should see others also, to see if you want him only or just his attachments. Be honest. He will respect you even more. I have to admit, he sounds like a gem. Also, be honest with yourself. You said that he was older than you. Is this going to be a problem? If your not sure, please rethink. I wish you both all the luck and happiness.
Sometimes if someone has been hurt in the past, and since then he hardly ever date with someone else, it just that he needs time to accommodate the new situation, which is with you. Yeah I was understated that he was a busy person, but one thing that you can be happy with him is when he ask you out for date, he is very care and give attention for you. I know it was just only two months you being out with him, but I understand how you feel. I know you wanted a closer relationship and take some serious on it right?How about you give it some discussion for how you really feel and what you wanted in a relationship with him, so that he will understand. Try to talk with him genuinely, don't just take it personally. If you keep like this, he will never know what your thoughts about him, need and want, and instead, you too never get what you want from him.
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