Do I buy them a gift or Not?

Yeah smitty is right, we are NEVER going to tell you to buy us a gift. It's not the same thing as saying not to hug you or something. Buying someone (anyone) a gift is supposed to be something you WANT to do. Not something you do because you think that you SHOULD. But of course we are going to want you to always want to buy us a gift, lol.

Now on a side note, I frequently ask my husband not to buy me a gift and actually mean it. But this is a totally different situation. He doesn't ask me "Hey should I get you something?" I tell him before he says anything at all, "Hey I don't want you to buy me anything this year for my birthday, ok?" (I usually have a reason and provide that reason also, which helps because then he knows I'm really serious.) That situation is TOTALLY different, lol. But of course 9 times outta 10 he still gets me something anyway and I don't complain, lol. But on the times he doesn't, I don't get upset with him at all. But then see I agree with you, I would rather spend time with my guy having fun over getting a gift. That's just me though.

As for price. that's a total judgment call. Depends on how long you've been together, how serious you are, how much she has spent on you in the past, and how much you are ABLE to spend, and remember that quality matters so much more than price. If it doesn't cost much but is something that is just SO perfect for her, she's not likely to care about the price because she's just going to be thrilled for such a great gift and even happier that her guy knows her so well. In fact that can often be even better than a pricey gift. I also agree with Avalace that you can go a little cheap on the gift if you plan an amazing day/night together to celebrate as well.

I'll be honest with you, not all girls are gonna agree with this. Some people are just materialistic.

It is all good - I just hope that you have a better understanding now. Good Luck

Don't think this is a new thing. You will have to learn that a women wants you to not have to ask you to do things. Just by asking her if she wants a gift is not a good idea on your part. As far as holiday's, I believe that there should only be two holidays that you buy a gift for her. Christmas and V-Day. And besides her birthday if you date somebody long enough anniversaries. But if you are buying for other holidays then you are nuts. I would how ever keep track of how long you guys are dating, I wouldn't buy gifts but I would let her know that you are well aware of how long that you have been dating. ie month, two months, etc.

As far as the whole mind games thing, just wait until you get a women to be mad at you and they say "you know why I am mad." Then you spend the rest of the night trying to figure it out. That is always enjoyable.

How much money depends on how long you've been dating. For me, I spend 5 bucks and I make a card or go for a night out we can both enjoy. I think material gifts are shallow and don't create a stable relationship early on.