In all seriousness, do you want a nice all around good guy?
Or is it something you just say because you think its what the guy wants to hear?
And is a guy who is a good all around nice guy something that is attractive or something you might not so much seek out but would like to be with a guy who is.
Or is it way more attractive to find a guy who is bad, been to jail, has baby momma drama, is into drugs, will abuse you whether it be physical mentally/emotionally?
Do you like a bad guy because maybe its what your accustomed to and do not want to venture out of your comfort zone because your afraid of what being with someone who is normal and ideally a sane all around good person just scares you to death and just rather not plain deal with it?
I wonder if what you say is what you honestly and truly men or if its just what you say for whatever reason.
I see a lot of my friends go out with guys who are bad. Honestly, I don't get it. I would never go out with someone who isn't nice. I think that it's a sign of low self-esteem, and I urge everyone to realize that they are wonderful people who deserve nothing but respect.
I want a nice guy. Between an overprotective father and a feminist mother, I feel like I was taught that all men are bad. There are plenty of times when I feel like marriage is fake because a man can't possibly care about a woman enough to spend the rest of his life with her, but I still hope that there are decent guys out there who prove me wrong, and "bad boys" don't.
Now, being nice doesn't necessarily mean they're a pushover. Honestly, I wouldn't feel secure with a bad boy because they don't seem like the caring type at all. If something happened, I wouldn't feel like I could rely upon him. Nice guys can be adventurous and everything else girls like about bad boys without being jerks.
Sane women like good guys, but we don't like guys who are punks and let us walk all over them. A lot of men act like it's either or. If they aren't a jerk, then they have to be this passive pussy. I'm not saying that you're like that, but there are men who think like this.
Women who flock to men who are drug addicts and abusive have issues themselves. Why would a guy want to date a woman like that? She probably has a ton of baggage and no self esteem. I know men don't find THAT attractive!
But then some of us (like me) aren't looking for anything serious so we don't care if the guy is bad or not. I wouldn't let any guy disrespect me, but I'm not looking for a stereotypical nice guy either. If he's been to jail and uses certain drugs, I really don't care. It's not like I plan on settling down and marrying the guy. Guys like that do for some reason have a lot of confidence and swagger, and that's very attractive to women.
If a nice guy developed confidence and swagger he would be the perfect guy.
No, I want a nice guy! Who'll treat me nice, won't raise his hand on me, won't make me do things I don't want, won't make me suffer with saying - your getting fat, you should watch what you eat or I'll dump you! Won't make me not talk to anybody because apparently he's jealous! Won't make me wait for him while he's with other girls! No on the contrary I DO WANT A NICE GUY especially one who will show me off to his friends and not be embarrassed by me! Who'll actually hold me at night while I'm sleeping whether I need it or not! And who'll definitely listen, won't curse at me, won't scream at me, won't call me names or say anything hurtful! But who'll actually love and understand me!
Well that doesn't sound like asking for too much, don't get me wrong I am looking to be understood too, but unfortunately I have found that girls/women are hugely hung up on looks or go completely on what I have to type without actually getting to know me. I am tired of being judged on what I look like without actually getting to know who I am what I have to say and opinions and etc.. ya know, I find it really petty so many are all about the physical, Your on my aim boy we should really chat. - 3 months ago
In all honesty, I don't know why girls like bad guys. I know most of us all do. The thing with bad guys is that.they don't last and we all know it. We fool around with a few bad guys and things usually end up bad but in the end when a girl is done with screwing around she'll wanna settle down. and wen we wanna settle down its usually with a good guy. I honestly think in the very end the nice guy wins.
good guys aren't a turn off. they just have a stereotype of being kinda boring, quiet and not rly into having fun. Girls like excitement, guys just need to show us that we don't need a "bad boy" to have fun with a guy
Basically even if it is say for example a boyfriend/girlfriend thing a nice guy is only a last resort because that's the only way she will get some stability? That's seems really bad. I mean I know I have grown up since HS was way mature than others my age always have been, but needless to say I don't see the need urge or desire to be a drunk or start a wrap sheet with the police to have fun, I know least have a good idea who I am and my wants and limitations whether it be physical or mental if it makes any sense - 3 months ago
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(Age:18 to 24)
When: 13 days ago
Personally what I see most is girls that get with a bad boy, but not quiet that bad, but who chests on them and mistreats them and they are unhappy in the relationship but feel as though it's the best they can get because "all guys are jerks" but when you talk to them most of them really want a nice guy, but they also want to feel safe and secure like they would/could defend them if they need to and will stick up for them emotionally and physically. I think the thing most nice guys (I used to) think is that girls don't want a nice guy it isn't so much that as much as the bad boys wear their confidence (often times arrogance) on their sleeve they know they can protect them, whether they will or not is a different story, but until they know they won't protect them they won't see otherwise. It's the strong masculine qualities of the bad boys they like even if a nice guy has it they tend not to express it or be able to express it until the moment arises when they actually defend and protect them, it's because most nice guys are just that nice so they aren't steping on anyone's feet or flexing their muscles and such while the bad boys are. So to answer your question I think most woman and maybe a handful of girls actually want nice guys they just tend not to see them for what they are because they aren't as "noisey" about who they are, even though from all the nice guys I've talked to they are not only protective and caring and such but tend to be romantic and sweet and all around intimate, I think it's a shame that nice guys just can't show what they have to offer without coming off as a prick. I hope this answers your question.
Women do not want nice guys because of the stereotype that nice guys are wimps and losers with no backbone. Quite the contrary. The next problem that follows is that women tend to follow their eyes in what makes a nice guy: tall, handsome, and so on. Men are no different: we have that astigmatism of nice women being hot, slim and sexy with large boobs on a Barbie-Doll-Figure. What happens is that those nice people who are not so physically gifted are left out but have been standing next to you the whole time. It is not until we reach our 30's when we finally wise up and judge a person by their personality first and looks last. But by that time, women have already had evil days with bad men and the change is forever.
Solutions? I dunno. In all my years, I don't have a winning solution as to how to open a woman's eyes to a real nice guy. They say confidence is the biggest factor. But a confident man who is not a woman's type will be just as easily rejected as a wimp with no confidence. Been there, gone thru that, no fun. I can tell you stories about my college dating life: thousands of approaches to women, zero success.
But no matter what, never give up. You may be surprised where you will find that nice person be it man or woman. I've just recently discovered someone in Taiwan who really likes me(?)
I agree with you about the wising up in the past few years that has been me and I haven't hit 30 yet so I peaked early I guess. I have to say honestly the barbie doll thing doesn't do it for me, I want attractive but not what society and the media deem attractive but what I find attractive, looks fade over time so personality has to be there and looks are just a little bonus but I think some mutual attraction should be there, I know what I like and def want personality wise and looks as well - 3 months ago
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When: 13 days ago
