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Why do men like to serial date??

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Celeste21 (Age:18 to 24)     When: 4 months ago
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So why do men talk to so many girls at one time, if they don't have a girlfriend? I know they are not obligated to anyone, so it's not cheating on anything, but don't they care at all about making at least one of the women their talking to feel special?

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tex151 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 4 months ago
To tell you the truth at the moment I'm talking to three girls and no I don't really like them but I do like sex. I have these three but I am always looking for another, the only time that I would pick one if I liked them, and since I don't well keep on fishing I guess. My friends girlfriend calls me a player for being this but oh well that's just how I am, I think the real reason why she thinks that is because I slept with her best friend.
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Question Asker Wow... do you pretend like you like them??? Or are you honest about the fact that you only want them for sex? And are you enjoying the sex with complete strangers? - 4 months ago
Answerer Yeah I pretend I like them, and well there not complete strangers cause I know them now but yeah I do have one night stands and stuff. I just don't have a problem meeting women and they always say I bet you have a line of women just waiting for you, and I'm like do you see a line cause I don't or I say yeah but you can come to the front of the line. - 4 months ago
Question Asker How can you stand having sex with them, if you don't even like them in the slightest... that would irritate the fu*k outta me - 4 months ago
Answerer Cause I like sex and I'm an asshole I guess idk. - 4 months ago
Question Asker Lol.... you make me laugh - 4 months ago
Answerer Laughter is the key to a woman's heart lol - 4 months ago
Question Asker Ok let me clarify. The masturbation doesn't suck, the fact that it's not a real person is what sucks... oh and sorry for spelling errors... It irritates me to look at those, but I'm to lazy to spellcheck. - 4 months ago
Question Asker My bad... wrong comment this commenting crap sux... - 4 months ago

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Crapshoot (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
Okay, don't start hating men because of this, but sometimes it's just fun to serial date. It feels good to get so much attention. Another aspect of it is that a man's sexual needs are strong and we have a harder time suppressing them than women. I know women's needs are just a strong but you guys just have the innate ability to put them on the back-burner, for the most part we kinda drop the ball in the respect. If there's a chance that we can have sex with a girl we find attractive we're going to go for it, sometimes (sadly, maybe 'often' is a more fitting) without even thinking about the emotional implications.

Also, I've found that women don't enjoy being single as much. Don't get me wrong, there are women out there who aren't looking for a relationship, but most are and it's rarer that you find a woman who is just looking for casual sex with little emotional involvement than a man who is. Again, I realize that there are women out there who are like this, it's just that men have no problem with just having casual sex even when they ARE looking for a relationship, and in fact casual sex takes precedence and if something comes out of it, bonus. Women though seem to have sex with the hopes of starting a relationship.

To put it into perspective I'll give you a scenario and tell you how the average guy thinks. You yourself are female so you should easily be able to see the obvious difference. Also, you have to know that girls and guys do think differently so don't call us pigs, or think it's gross, it's really out of our control for the most part especially when we are in our sexual prime.

Guy sees a girl he thinks is cute and thinks, 'Damn I want to see if I can f*** her.'

Guy approaches girl, in her mind this is going on, 'Can I see myself having sex with this guy, and is he good looking enough to impress my friends?' She doesn't actually think this, this is a natural human response because ALL first impressions are based on looks, don't buy into that love a first sight bullshit, it's lust at first sight, COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. So this actually takes place in her subconscious, and sometimes she does actively think it (depending on the girl).

You start talking and this is where I'm actually a little confused but it seems either she finds him interesting and wants to date him, or just have sex with him. What I don't get is if she is in fact actively looking for a relationship will she just agree to casual sex if she finds him really hot but isn't interested in him or not?

I can tell you the guy's take, we want to have sex with her regardless. Even if we don't want a relationship our primary goal will be bedding this girl and maybe keeping her around for as long as possible without getting to emotionally involved, unless we do want one. We won't even think about whether or not we're going to hurt you if you're looking for something more, because the truth is that sex gets in the way of us thinking that far ahead.
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Answerer You shouldn't assume not all men are like this, at a point we get tired of the whole 'playing the field' thing and want to settle down. This is important to you because, if you're actively seeking a mate, this is the kind of guy you want to be looking for. I wish I could tell you WHAT to look for, but I really can't, it depends on the guy. The advice I can offer is, you should try to be a little more emotionally callous; don't wear your heart on your sleeve it has no place in the dating game. - 4 months ago
Answerer I meant to say, 'you shouldn't assume that all men are like this' in the first sentence. - 4 months ago
Question Asker Wow, thanks for the in depth response. I really appreciate it, the commenting and the honest.! - 4 months ago
S8tr1234 So I'd basically have to wait til men are in their 30s if I want to settle down. :( - 4 months ago
Answerer Haha, no, just because a guy is in his sexual prime doesn't mean that he's not looking for a relationship. Personally I'm tired of fooling around and I'm looking for a serious girlfriend, and this is coming from a guy who's longest relationship has lasted just over a month because I'd get bored. I know, I've heard this, too many times to count. Don't judge me for it, I pretty much explained how most guys are and I'm not going to sit here and pretend to be the exception when I'm not. - 4 months ago
Answerer Also, I'm still in my sexual prime and all it means is that when I do get seriously involved, I'm just going to want to have TONS AND TONS of sex, that's all, haha. - 4 months ago
Question Asker I don't really get the whole in my "Prime" shit... When I looked that crap up I found out all it means is the time when you are the most sexually aroused... I can get sexually aroused by some one touching my ear.... So wtf is in ur prime got anything to do with anything?? I don't by that women don't reach it till their in their mid thirties either... - 4 months ago
Answerer It's not only that you are most sexually aroused, it's more along the lines that you just crave it. I guess you'll just have to see what I mean when you're in your mid thirties, heh. Until then though hopefully this will tide you over. Serial dating for women usually occurs after getting out of a long relationship, and unlike a rebound relationship, pretty much entails dating several people sequentially with the goal of instant gratification - 4 months ago
Answerer Usually, this gratification is in the form of acceptance, compassion, or love. For a guy though, this gratification is sexual and a bad relationship doesn't precede it. Actually, it's our desire for sex that fuels us. We meet a girl, we date her until it gets too serious and then we move on. Also, this helps us avoid the natural decline in sexual excitement as a relationship gets more serious. - 4 months ago
Answerer This is just natural in ever relationship, you reach a point where sex isn't AS exciting as it used to be. It's still fun, it's just not as spontaneous and adventurous as it used to be because you are aware of how your partner is going to react. Adventure is probably the most important of the two, as each different girl is a completely new experience, we don't know what to expect and this is both frightening (because of performance issues) and intriguing. - 4 months ago
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