I have this friend that I've known for a while. We grew close in a short time. As I got to now him over time I started to become into him and he started becoming more and more playful an flirty as time went on, I started thinking he was into me as well. After about knowing him for 6 months out of the blue one day he indirectly mentioned a wife to me. Which came as a shock because he never wore a ring and never mentioned her.
I figured I'd move on but then he still continued to become playful and flirty. Not only that he started becoming interested in my personal life. Wanting to know about my family, my interests, and everything about me and he'd share his personal and serious stuff that you wouldn't really tell anyone after only knowing them a few months. Whenever I arrived he'd grin from ear to ear, became touchie feelie, would hug me a lot and whenever we were around a group of friends I would see out of the corner of my eye that he'd watch me in this "wondering" and fondness sort of way.
He'd always try and talk to me 24/7 more than the ones he's known for eons and would do stupid things just to get my attention and if I was talking to another guy he'd get jealous and like come over and playfully kick me and then interrupt and take over the conversation.
There were times where I would get injured and he would pay for the expenses when he knew I made a lot of money (even more than he does I think). And when I was recuperating he would ask the physical therapist/chiro all the time about my progress to find out how I was doing and when he finally saw me again he made it seem like he didn't even when I knew him and the chiropractor were friends.
I told him one time I was getting laid off and he wanted to know when I actually did get laid off so he could help me find a job. And he kept asking every few weeks since then. He's never said anything that was sexual in nature to me, he's been nothing but a prince charming of sorts.offering to carry my bags, always wondering about how I'm doing and how my family is doing.
On some occasions he keeps asking about a boyfriend that I don't even have. One day we were hanging out and he was like "So am I keeping you from something? Am I keeping you from plans with your boyfriend?" and on one occasion he asked me a lot about my dating status trying to find out if I was dating anyone or if I liked any of my coworkers and what kind of men I was into.
He even made a remark once when I was stressed out in my life and he kept making assumptions about why cause I never really told him what was going on.and when I finally did cause he kept bugging me about it he said "Well why didn't you say so? We need to be honest with each other and we need to communicate more. I need to know what's going on with you."
So its basically him caring a lot about me, watching me from afar, being touchie feelie, or always calling me for stupid reasons, flirting, being playful.and I've met his wife
Update: a a couple times since then (i've known him for about 13 months) now.and he's even like this with me around her. He even gushed about me to her and started asking me all these questions and she sat there watching the whole time. So what gives?
5 months ago
Uh.weirdo! That one would stump me too, I'd probably cut the friendship or whatever off it seems a bit creepy. If you started dating someone how would they react to this weirdo hangin around and doing things for you? No guy would believe this guy cares so much for you and helps you so much and your not doing something in return. That will cause problems. I'd shake dude and his way too accepting wife.
Well don't get me wrong he's not like this 24/7 and nor is it in a creepy way, he does have his own life too but he's like this whenever we're around each other. Sometimes we'll hang out platonically but that's at most once a week or once every few weeks otherwise a bunch of us will hang out a couple of times a week. But my question is if he's married and hasn't really asked me out, why would he act this way? - 5 months ago
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I just would lose him, he's married if he's not 100% happy in his marriage he should take some personal time to figure out what he wants not hang out with another woman unless he's in the process of a divorce. I don't get why his wife is ok with it....maybe she's not. - 5 months ago
In my opinion ,I say this don't get involve if the person is married because getting involve in there relationship will cause more drama even if your not in there business but you knowing that he is marry you should respect that and be like look I know that your married so I have to respect that or something else him flirting around with you while his wife is there will cause even more problems because she will Accuse you of things you never probably done or she would look at you in the wrong way and say disrespectful things about.
That wasn't my question. I never said I was going to become a homewrecker. My question is why is he acting that way if he's married... - 5 months ago
Answerer
O0ps sorry oh he acting that way because he likes who you are and your personality when he is with you doesn't he feel happy and comfortable? but when he is with his wife he feels like his world is coming to an end .He won't admit how he feels about you unless you ask him .But him showing you how he feels is the key - 5 months ago
Question Asker
So your sayin he's interested but won't admit it? figured as much but then if he was unhappy with her wouldn't just leave her... - 5 months ago
Answerer
Its hard to separate with someone that you are committed to.Yes he is interested you he just scared to admit it to you because he wouldn't know how would you response to his answer - 5 months ago
Question Asker
So what do I do cause I think he's a great person and I like him but I can't get involved in someone who is married but at the same time he's amazing and I'm sure he's been dying to tell me but like you said he might be scared to tel me so what do I do about it. - 5 months ago
Answerer
When you are outside with him like shopping or other stuff that you usually do start a conversation about him and his wife that's when you jump in and tell him how you exactly feel.then that's when he comes and tells you the same thing - 5 months ago
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