Word leaked to my ex I was dating 1 of his friends cause he dates a girl I know. My ex said he had to stop dating me. At 1st he didn't, then he started to flake. 2 weeks prior to my vacation he stopped calling. we ended up playing phone tag till I left. 2 days into my trip he sent: Hi there,I don’t know if you are checking email while over there, but hello!I need a get out of jail free pass just to cut to the chase. I cannot explain the last 2 weeks over email, but maybe when you come back. To put it abbreviated, I almost quit and so did 2 others very close to me here, my basement flooded, I almost lost 2 friends, and life as I knew was horrible. I am better now, but still obviously feel badly that we never spoke or met up before you left.Everyone needs one of these passes once in a while, if there is one available, I would like to use it.Thanks for everything. I hope you are having a great time. Is it just wine every night or are you mixing in other things? Did you still bring heals like a good American girl?I hope you are well and your trip is awesome. Love Part of me felt he was just making excuses. And he's been so hot/cold that I'm just confused (esp. cause he signed his email "love"?! he'd never done that before!) PLUS, I heard thru the grapevine that he told my ex he was going to stop seeing me So this was my response: I am a very understanding and forgiving person. I'm sorry to hear that you had a rough couple of weeks. I do appreciate the explanation for turning your back to me during that time. As badly as you may feel for your actions, it does not negate them. And, it's not just the couple of weeks before I left.I just don't see how I fit into your life? We've teetered on the dating line for months. I greatly enjoy having you as part of my life, I think you're wonderful, and I don't regret the time we've spent together. But, in a romantic aspect I'd like a bit more from a relationship than what we've had and this doesn't seem to be progressing. If this is a friendship thing, you say you are such a good friend to people, that you put others ahead of yourself, that you just want to make everyone happy, but you haven't shown me that friendship reliability over the past several weeks and then some. You need to be clear as to what you want. I have never let my deeper feelings for you, our less than enviable circumstances, or personal life stresses cloud the fact that I respect and appreciate you as a person and a friend, first and foremost. Thus, I've always been open and honest with you - whether it be respecting the need to walk away from each each other last summer, appreciating the little time we did manage to share given conflicting schedules the past few months or understanding how difficult our circumstances have made things the past few weeks. I have been more than fair.I do think you are a wonderful person and I wish only good things for you. But, to be fair, I think you need 2 be clearer as to y you need a get out of jail free pass.
Put simply, people have become accustomed to being fearful childish and pathetic in how he or she ends a relationship. Both men and women nowadays are so gutless and stupid it pisses me off. They almost all just "run away" or as you said, go "MIA". There isn't really anything you and I can do, most people just don't have much courage nowadays because of bad habits reinforced by society and friends.
Everyone certainly needs one of those. Guys are prideful and oblivious beasts. We'll often stop communicating because we feel ashamed and think you'll retaliate against us for the lack of contact. We may have had a lot of our plate and wanted to vent, but felt it was too late. Naturally, this hurts us more than we care to admit. There's damages in that chest of his beyond what you know. What you said was completely fair, however you should invite him to prove what he's saying. Open the door, and allow his future actions to dictate his intentions. If he's truly in earnest about all this, he'll come through. Let him know you want to be there for him and would like to share whatever cross he carries. What you'll both gain from the experience will surely outweigh the complications. No, it doesn't negate what he's done but he did have his reasons and much of it was out of fear I'm willing to bet. This, and confusion. Be there, and give him the strength he needs to pick himself back up.
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