Now I'm not talking about just simple dating. It's when you've been dating for more then a year. When you've been dating for some time now, and well you have a good boyfriend and he buys you things and takes you out a lot. And for whatever the reason may be and you two decide to go out but he doesn't have enough money and you know that his struggling. Does it hurt for you to pay for a few nights out? And you know you have money in your purse (weather it's cash or credit card) but you still let him pay? When just a few words like "here baby I got this" won't hurt. Now I'm not cheap I just have things to pay (like bills!?) and now I'm not saying every girl does this. But it's stupid to wait and hope that he will say "babe, can you pay this time?" because you know that won't happen and you take advantage of that. Why do you do that? My girl lives with her parents and doesn't have bills the only thing she has to pay is her credit card and car insurance which I help pay for as well. So I don't think theirs an excuse to pay once. The principle of who gets to pay isn't my issue it's when you take advantage of that. You know the whole men thing, that men always pay. Regardless if his struggling and guys you know the same stupid excuse women give you when you ask about this "well men just don't ask us to pay?" "if they would ask me, I would" we men don't ask! We just hope you pay attention and notice enough about our financial or any other problem that we may be going through! Just like you would want us to notice things about you? I mean is that too much to ask? But why do it? I'm sorry if it doesn't make sence lol I have to get to work! lol but please respond if you know what I'm talking about
I think it depends on the guy, how long you two have been going out, and each other's financial situations. If I had a full time job I'd happily pay. But it is kinda accepted that the guy always pay for the girl. It also depends on the guy because I've dated guys where they insist they pay and I've never paid for myself ever. One relationship lasted 1 year and I only paid twice for both of us because I insisted. But the guy I'm dating now says he is irritated that I don't pay my share and went as far as to say that I'm not taking him seriously etc. I don't get guys. lol. btw I thought it was kinda wrong that you help pay her credit card and insurance.those are hers alone. Maybe if you let her pay that she can be more understanding about ur situation.
i think, whoever did the "inviting" should be ready to pay. guy & girl should take turns paying that's if both have jobs. otherwise, whoever earns a living will have to pay most of the time.
my friend is with a guy months and months and he thinks she loves him but she is actually just using him for his money which a lot of girls do that I know! I'm not the type of girl who wants a guy to shower me with gifts and foot my bills! I mean I'm not exactly rich now but I still would offer to pay I often pay for things even if I don't really have the money to spend as I don't want someone to pay for me the hole time! at least she could do is pay half .your her boyfriend not her walking atm machine I know that sounds a little harsh but its one thing that annoys me when girls let there boyfriends pay for a lot of things ! boyfriends are meant to be someone we love and spend time with and enjoy spending time with we can't let them pay for everything a relationship works both ways ! if I was a guy and my girlfriend never ever put her hand in her pocket when we wen out I would get really annoyed
Well I don't shower her with gifts, nor do we go to expensive places to eat (most of the time) but I dk maybe I just need to be direct and tell her what's what! and if she doesn't like it, oh well... it's not always about rainbows and butterflies... I work for that money and I should be able to do something nice for myself as well. not just spending it all on dinners and movies lol - 5 months ago
its perfectly fine for the girl to pay but let her offer. I pay for my boyfriend and I if I'm the one to ask him on the date. and if I know he doesn't have a lot of cash and I wanna do something then I will simply say Its on me. or I won't say anything and we just don't do anything until he can afford it again. just make it clear to her that you don't have a lot of cash to be doin stuff all the time. if she still wants to do stuff then she will just hav to offer or she won't get to do anything anymore.
Well I let her now about my financial status and problems it all just goes through one ear and out the other.... but if she wants to go out and I don't have money I just borrow. So how do you say we can't go out without sounding so cheap? - 5 months ago
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Just lay it down to her as nicely as you can. tell her that you really can't afford it right now. maybe you could suggest something that doesn't cost anything like watchin a movie or something. not overly exciting but still can be fun if you both have the right attitude. and do NOT borrow money to take her out. you aren't her sugar daddy! your her bf! tell her to ask her dad for soemthing if you can't pay for it. lol tht was a joke don't really do tht. - 5 months ago
Dude, paragraphs. paragraphs. They really do help you know.
And I pay for meals and stuff but the girl I'm dating at the moment pays for a little things here and there (when I seem to say I don't have any money). Hey it works, and she isn't bothered by it.
A good ratio is 3:1. Every three times you pay, she will pay for the fourth. That way it is not a one sided relationship but you still present yourself as the "chivalrous man."
It makes great sense! Guys will overdraft $1,500 to have a chance to impress you or otherwise gain some kudos. If you know he's going through a rough time, then make an offer. If he refuses then say, "Thank you. Next time, then? It's on me. Don't worry. I appreciate the gesture." and he'll appreciate that. You haven't hurt his ego and opened the door to sharing a bit. He'll fight it most likely but he feels it's a sign of weakness if he doesn't foot the bill. It's a big deal to us to take care of you, and we'll do so all we can within our means.
I don't spend money to impress her and that's not my deal.. is when they no your hurting with every dollar your spending and they do nothing about it.. that's what buggs me. - 5 months ago
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I've done that, and because I felt obligated to. I've had to outright let them know that as much as I'd like to it's simply beyond my means. There's no shame in that, because you have to look out for #1 first before you can ever hope to take care of someone else (or even throw some bling at her to let her know she rocks). - 5 months ago
I hear your pain. I get it. Will women get it? Probably not. Your best solution is to just quit offering to pay for her insurance and/or credit card. This should free up some cash for the date thing. Next thing to do is start being a cheapskate date. Take her to Fuddrucker's burger joint instead of the steak place. Take her to a picnic instead of lunch at a restaurant. Visit an aquarium instead of taking her to that seafood restaurant. If she still feels like fish, take her to John Silver's. Rent a movie instead of paying for the whole $100 movieplex experience. Go to a little league game instead of springing for those choice box seats at the stadium.
The best thing about all this advice? She will think that most of it is sooooo romantic. Except of course, the insurance thing. That will probably piss her off. If it does, either offer to marry her so you SHARE everything, or dump the greedy bitch. Good luck.
Lmfao! that's some good advice bout then I'll probably still be suffering cause I don't like doing any of that crap lol... but true it'll save me a lot of bank! - 5 months ago
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