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Everything can change and influence who you are. And sometimes you can end up on very similar paths, and it might work very well as a relationship. But sometimes it won't.
As far as the current US culture as a whole goes, generally speaking, you're probably going to be fairly open to dating whoever you think would do well in a relationship with you. In another country, it would probably be a horrible thing to date outside of your race or culture. Here, you're a little more free as an adult to date anyone you'd like.
The last girl I dated, she was very similar in culture. We had had some very similar things happen to us in our lives. That's the part that made us sort of compatible, and made us understand each other on some great mysterious level. But, she chose to view things completely differently from how I saw them, and insisted on doing things without listening to me. That's what broke us up. It's partly about your reactions to things in your life.
My first girlfriend cheated. Now, I could be angry against all women. I could choose to swear off women completely. I could let it fester; I could choose to become stronger and smarter about warning signs. I could choose to be angry with god. Or the trial could have made me have a stronger relationship with god. I could have chosen to have gotten more depressed and desperate. But I realized that she wasn't worth it. She had so many issues. I chose to remember those few trouble signs, be smarter about how I handled things, and not be such a "niceguy."
There's a million ways I could deal or cope with that issue, all bringing me to who I am or who I'm not at this point in time.
So, I think what it comes down to is as long as those differences can be forgiven (and I can't tell you what those things are, as they're different for everyone), and as long as you can find similarities that will work for the both of you, and as long as you both can handle it an a mature way, then I think it's the couple's decision.
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