I'm always getting hit on, always flirted with and complimented, always have guys asking me "you're so beautiful and just real cool, how do you not have a boyfriend?" but I can't seem to find a guy who wants to be in a relationship with me. I'm tall, pretty, long hair, sexy but not slutty, love playing and watching sports, funny, fun to be around, and just real down to earth. guys always tell me that I'd be the perfect girl, but when I like a guy, they seem to just want to be friends, not more.any ideas? p.s. I'm 6 feet tall, so the fact that I'm taller than most of these guys might have something to do with it?
It sounds like you're getting into a lot of relationships that turn into lust, not love. Friends with benefits or one-night-stand type things. I believe you when you say you aren't a slut.
Often times when a beautiful women exists, she attracts all the scumbags that just want sex, because often times these guys who want sex want sex because they're superficially attractive enough to get it. Meanwhile, all the good, caring, and compassionate guys, some who are also attractive, don't approach you because you give off an intimidating presence and they're afraid you won't notice them or even entertain the thought of talking with them.
The people who you need to find are most likely too scared to approach you because of your presence, and also because of all the charming attractive scumbags that approach you. You need to reeeeaaaaaccccchhhhhhhh out. If these great men can't reach you, then you need to reach them. Start with shy guys. You just need to learn where to find the right guys, and I can tell you now the ones that have been approaching you and calling you, "hot" or "sexy" or "you're so beautiful and just real cool, how do you not have a boyfriend", are NOT the right place to start.
I hope I helped. I know I made some generalizations there, I do realize there are attractive charming men who have good hearts, and unattractive shy guys who are evil. I just wanted to make a point : )
Feel free to ask more questions, I'll be glad to help.
Yeah, right now there's this guy I like, at first I was just physically attracted to him because he's taller then me and real sexy....but the more I got to know him, he was shy with girls, he's the sweetest guy ever, has a really good heart, etc.....me and him became really close friends, and recently I told him I like him, he blushed, smiled super huge, got so happy, but said he likes being friends though. And me and him spend so much time together, etc, and it seemed like he liked me just as much - 5 months ago
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Yeah, like I said, there are those guys out there. It reaallly sucks too. You finally find someone with such great qualities and he only wants to be friends. On the bright side you've proven to yourself you have the ability and power to find guys like that, so just keep trying and it'll work out : ) - 5 months ago
the tall thing may have something to do with it. other things I've noticed with girls of your description is that you are sarcastic. if this is true, stop it.
Well the height thing does have something to do with it, some guys just don't like their girls taller than they are, but the majority don't mind it at all if it's only by a couple of inches. I'm sure you want your guy to be taller than you, but your options are going to be more limited than say a girl who is 5'5", not saying it isn't possible, it's just harder. I'm 6'2" and I'm lucky if I can meet a new girl who is 5'10" or taller maybe once every couple of months (I prefer girls who are closer to my height). So you could try going after some of the shorter guys.
As far as being "the perfect girl" goes, I know how you feel from an opposite gender sense I used to get that I was "the perfect guy" quite often by girls who would then turn me down and just want to be friends. I found out that I just wasn't building attraction with these girls from the get go. I stopped trying to impress girls and was still nice and chivalrous but I just started to enjoy being single. A few weeks later I had two or three girls after me. You just need to learn to build attraction between you and the guys you like. Here's a link that I think might help you with that. link
You seem to be nice and sincere, I hope things work out for you and if you have any other questions feel free to ask!
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