How do girls feel about having sex on the first date?
Update: I just wanted to let everyone know who submits comments on here that I choose to not judge people or their comments, so everyone is free to state their opinions! There are no right or wrong answers - only opinions! I do not mark anyone down - FYI. :)
A month ago
I've done it but not any more. Not until we've gotten to know each other pretty well and are looking to become a steady item. It's not so much a morals thing as pragmatics. I really want to know the guy well and develop some feelings for him.
Oh the age old question. A lot of people do it, some people love it, and some people regret it. The soonest I have was on the second date. Ha! But, that was a bad idea! I would say if you're not looking for a romantic relationship, don't do it, but if you're all for a fling: yes. - A month ago
For me it's all about spontaneity.there is nothing wrong with having sex on the first date if its going to happen its going to happen.depends on who has control.That does not necessarily make you a hoe even though that's a typical stereotype of the situation.ever heard of a one nighter? hell, can't girls act like guys for once you only live once.dont get me wrong I can still count the guys I've been with on one hand.im saying don't put a time frame on it because the outcome of the relationship is not going to be any different.from experience waiting too long for me was a waste of time because the guy sucked and downhill went the relationship.
well, it goes against all my morals to sleep with someone you're not really in love with, so no (unless you were friends for so long before then, and actually in love with each other)
I think marriage is the key, you should love someone enough to keep it sacred until marriage. In anyway sex is the initiator of marriage and creates the marriage bond. But it's just safer and cleaner after the vows and laws are put in place. - 2 months ago
I totally disagree that sex should be kept until marriage. I do think sex should be kept until you care about someone deeply enough though. - A month ago
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I didn't say anything about marriage - A month ago
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Oh wow....you mark it down because I won't have sex on a first date?? - A month ago
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I didn't mark you down - I appreciate everyone's opinions! - A month ago
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I wasnt talking about you, I was talking about whoever did it... - A month ago
I believe all of you are wrong. Sex may express love, but there's more to it than love. If love was what made us have sex, then why are there people out there having sex without love? I say there's a difference between making love and sex. I believe sex is just something you do with a girl but making love is something you do with a girl you truly love. I believe god gave us hormones, and those hormones tell our body what to do. It doesn't make us bad people if we listen. - A month ago
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You guys aren't even understanding my answer, I've never said it makes someone a bad person, all I said was that it goes against MY morals..you can't disagree with someone elses morals just because theyre not your own - A month ago
I think it is a pretty bad idea. It complicates matters and leads to all kinds of expectations you shouldn't have after only one date.
That said, I have had sex on a first date 3 times. Each time with someone I knew and mutually flirted with for a long time before having the first date. Perhaps the months of flirting led to a lot of pent up sexual whatever. who knows. Bottom line is I regretted it immediately each time.
I was disappointed in myself for not standing my ground when pressured to take it further than I wanted. I wondered what kind of girl does he think I am? (exactly the kind I turned out to be, I guess). I was angry with the guy for taking it so fast, when I thought he respected me and wanted a relationship. but mostly I was worried that he his opinion of me changed for something we BOTH did.
Whether it was my over thinking the situation or him losing respect for me, none of my sex-on-first-date situations turned into a second date. Which is really too bad. I think with all three of those guys, we really like each other but just couldn't get past the rushed intimacy.
I don't think it's a NO NO NO situation. I think it is completely situational. I honestly, think that anyone that says no no no, if they were in the right situation and it felt right they would. I have done it; and every time I have done it, I've ended up dating the guy for a while. A few were sex based relationships, but I knew they would be going in. Bottom line, it all depends on the situation and how you are feeling.
What what? Are we hoes? Unless I knew you for years, we talked on the phone and know each other with this deep connection I would hate for a guy to ask that or try to have sex with me on the first date. Either I'd feel like a hoe or really not like the guy & think he's a user.
i see a lot of people got bad ratings for saying its a bad idea lol but seriously it is.you don't know the person well enough, you may think you do.but you actually don't. They could have a STI that you don't know about, they could just be using you.which is usually the case if somebody is rushed to do it right away. Sex should be something that's special between 2 people, something very intimate and something not just anybody could have from you. But some girls do like to have sex on the first date, but for me.its a risk not worth taking
Let me say this, if I were a guy, I would not initiate sex on the first date with a woman. If a guy did that to me (and it has happened), he would never see my face again. I would feel offended and disrespected that he would think I felt close enough to him to sleep with him so soon.
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