Simple question, I just want to know what you guys think about that issue.
Update: Okay, what if her career is at a high point and she is not ready for it especially if it was a one night stand that should have never happened and she regrets every moment of it?
5 months ago
Update: I really appreciate everyone's input on this! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, and THANK YOU!
5 months ago
if I were a guy I would have no second thoughts about dating a girl who had an abortion. after all he wouldn't know the situation, so I don't really think it would be fair for him to judge. also, having an abortion doesn't make you tainted.
I wouldn't! I would want to date a girl that has more respect for human life from the moment of conception because that's when human life begins. I guess I go out with her but I'd wouldn't want our relationship get serious. Life is too precious and what is an accident with us is not an accident with God. A child is always given out of love, a way to help that person in some very special way during her and his life. I know it'd be very embarrassing to be preg in front of all your friends, but after you adopt it out you'd probably be very glad you did because you'd make someone else very happy. You might even see the baby as looking just like you and decide to keep it. Also, I don't think a woman ever forgets that she killed her baby no matter how old she lives.
well, if you are "career driven" or "married to your job" then yo are not ready for kids or a relationship. so you are doing the baby a favor cause it likely to feel rejected in the long run. rejecting a mate is bad enough, to make a child grow up feeling rejected over a career, unforgivable!
Yes, of course, there's no way that would ever even affect me, it's ridiculous to force a girl to have a child. Especially if they are still in high school like at my age.
I would hope not being your age, there are enough babies having babies. I appreciate your stance on this subject as it is not often you hear that from your age group. ;0) - 5 months ago
Hmm.this is a tough one. To start off, I'll state that to avoid flames and stay on topic, I'll avoid my reasons and thoughts for believing the way I do. That isn't the point of your question.
Honestly, I don't think I would. It might depend on the circumstances and such, but in my opinion there's very few reasons for committing such an act.
To those that say that it'd be none of his business, my response would be that this is a form of lying (omitting/hiding the truth). Look at it this way, you'd want to know if the guy you were dating were a convicted child molester, right? Both things would involve someone affecting another life, so I think it should be communicated to your significant other.
I know that my answer may rile a few people up, but I personally feel that abortion the taking of a life. If I were in a relationship and then I found out such a thing, I'd be quite upset. My partner would know how I felt, and if she omitted to tell me if she'd done such a thing, I'd be devastated. As I said earlier, circumstances might mitigate the situation, but honestly they'd have to be pretty substantial.
You've updated your question since I posted, so to amend mine, I answer your question; no, I would not date a girl who had an abortion under those circumstances. I believe people should take responsibility for their actions. To take a life just because it's an inconvenience for you, to me would not be a quality I'd want in someone I'd love and trust; for me or for any future family. - 5 months ago
Question Asker
So you are saying that if I had the child, ended my career or halted my career at that time and had you and everyone else's tax dollars supporting me, that is better? I don't think so. I appreciate your opinion, but I am not trying to bring a child into a world that I cannot support, that is not fair for the child to not be able to get my full devoted attention, time, and money. - 5 months ago
Answerer
My taxes do go to pay for such things. And as much as I'd like people to be responsible (protection, thinking ahead) and not just worry about pleasing themselves, I do realize that such things do happen. I'd rather the money go to help a child than kill it. If you didn't want to care for the child, adoption is an option. There are those out there that can't have children who have a lot of love to give to a child. - 5 months ago
Yep. Does not matter why because its not my business. Your past is not my past and we all do things for our own reasons. I would hope if the situation were to arise with me it wouldn't have to happen but I would support you in your decision.
Sure, as long as she is not a psycho bitch. If the abortion caused her to become one or if she always was one is irrelevant. If she is sober and sane after the abortion (no matter how long after), then that's ok.
Depends on if she is still in the that mindset. Philosophically and logically there is no reason to have an abortion in and situation, no if's and's or but's. Even stating it's your body doesn't ride because the same logic can be applied to "it's my house" and you should be able to kill off little children because they are leaching off of you and putting more stress on you.
Really though I'm not trying to start an argument just showing why it would depend. It would be an uphill battle and I would need to see that she is not going to have another abortion no matter what the costs. There would be a certain trust issue though. One of my friends was going to have a kid and his Girlfriend went to have an abortion because she didn't want to loose her figure. She did this behind his back too. So again it would seriously depend and she would need to show me that it wouldn't cross her mind again no matter what.
religion has a way of messing with someone's head and forces someone else values on you. for me, an abortion means you knew deep down you were not ready for the responsibility. that's it. at least you did not have the child and pass the buck and make someone else raise it. I avoid women who have kids, but have made HER parents (the grandparents) raise em!
AMEN to that. If you can't or won't accept the responsibility, why take it in the first place is my opinion. I would stay away from those women too, that's selfish to put it on the parents. - 5 months ago
For me it would depend on why you had one. eg if you had one because of an accident pregnancy. or didn't want children. it not the type of girl I'm looking for.
However if due to a medical nature eg risk to mother and child, severe deformity, or abortive miscarriage. it would a different matter.
