Issues such as feelings, intimacy, etc. It gets me so frustrated I just don't feel like dating anymore, I feel like I'd rather be by myself than get ignored. I told a guy how I felt and nothing.absolutely nothing when I have other guys lined up.such Bull! LOL
Umm. what would it mean to be taken seriously? I know a lot of people who want to treat their feelings as indisputable facts rather than simply their opinion on the issue. Someone's feeling largely just tell me what they think on an issue. The other half of the conversation is my perspective. These two opinions might be at odds with one another. If I don't agree with your perspective, does that mean I have invalidated your feelings? No, of course not, because your feelings are just the same as they ever were, I just didn't let their existence alter my behavior.
Having a feeling isn't a divine trump. It's just a feeling.
Feelings are not facts, just feelings, but why ignore them? At least make the acknowledgment and either tell me how you feel, that is all I am asking, and maybe I am asking for too much. - 2 months ago
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In some cases, the presence of a feeling might be a mandate. For example, when you go out with your friends, it makes me feel like you don't love me. If I acknowledge this, am I not saying I don't love her if I continue to go out with my friends? Sometimes it helps to look carefully for what we are actually requesting and ask if it is reasonable. Some conversations on feelings wind up being very no win and it is easier to just walk away.
Of course, some people don't listen even politely. - 2 months ago
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I agree, I think it is just easier to walk away and that is what I am going to do. Agreed. - 2 months ago
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And just so you know, I only told him that lately I haven't been able to stop thinking about him and he stopped calling me completely and hasn't said anything to me, yet when he sees other guys around me he gets jealous. - 2 months ago
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Oh dear, one of those.
I am sorry but someone else is about to get very fortunate. - 2 months ago
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What do you mean? - 2 months ago
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Someone else meaning the guys I have lined up or him? LOL it's been a long day I am kind of slow. - 2 months ago
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When someone ends a non-productive relationship, they generally go on to have better relationships. Most people tend to have a progression of better and better relationships as they grow into their own life. If you are done with this guy, someone just got the chance at a better relationship. - 2 months ago
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I see I see. Thanks you just made my day and made it easier to forget about him! - 2 months ago
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Everything came out yesterday and I asked him "do you think you have feelings for me more than just friends?" He ignored the question and started saying how he can barely keep a relationship in his state, let alone a LDR and how he has his family, his boat, his dog, and his money and he is not looking to get married and have kids right away, which I NEVER said anything about. We ended the convo by me just saying bye and I was crying a little and he begged me to stop, but I couldn't. Well - 2 months ago
Today he calls me in the morning and I asked if there was anything I could do for him "no" and he asked if there was anything he could do for me "no" and then he asks was I an asshole and did I really mislead you, I just told him "i'm too busy right now" he told me don't feed me that bulls**t excuse and I repeated myself, wished him a good day, and said bye. What do you think about that situation? I feel like he only called to make himself feel better for making me cry. - 2 months ago
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Sounds like he isn't interested in anything more than very casual dating. That's fine but I think that is not what you are looking for. Relationships find their own level in which they can be sustained. It's the relationship he is willing to have. If you are ok with it, proceed, if not, its better to say goodbye than ruin a perfectly good memory.
He's scared and likely all he sees is you trying to marry and bury him. Not sure how to counter and that. - 2 months ago
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Thanks, I will let you know what happens, I am definitely not about to casual date though and I am just going to move on with my life. I'm not sure why he thinks I want to marry him, and even told him I'm not trying to get married right now so it came from him, not me. :0( more fish in the sea. I really appreciate the fact you got back to me so quickly ;) - 2 months ago
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Happy to help.I just happened to sign on and see the comment.
I'm a big fan of friendly sexual relationships but if that isn't what you are looking for, it really is time to move one and find a relationship that suits you better. - 2 months ago
it takes guys at least 7 hours to sum up their feeling into words. I understand it might be frustrating because as women we can express our feelings when needed at the drop of a hat. just try to be more understanding and when asking a guy how he feels.id give him at least a day or two before checking in on the answer.
It's been a week and nothing. He's an ass and I'm moving on, he'll be sorry when he sees me in Vegas and Cabo, I know it, but by then it will be too late. - 2 months ago
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So the jacka** finally calls today and I said I was wondering when you were going to call and he said, I know I thought about it yesterday that I hadn't talked to you and I had some free time this morning so we talked for 20 minutes. I still think I need to walk away before I get admitted to a mental hospital. - 2 months ago
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Lol than maybe this one still needs some growing up to do. - 2 months ago
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Maybe, either way, I think it is absolute bullhonkey that he questions me on if I've slept with anyone and tells me he hates when I am a bitch, but HE made me that way towards him....a lot of growing up to do I guess. - 2 months ago
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Get away from him as soon as possible if he's saying shit like that! you don't need that in ur life girl...this insecure asshole is going to keep picking at you till he finds some slut and leaves you hanging. I say change ur number. - 2 months ago
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I just might do that. Thanks so much!! You really made this a lot easier to deal with!! ;0) - 2 months ago
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