Around April I developed a HUGE crush on a guy in my class. We've only ever had this one class together ever. The thing is, I know I'm hot, so that's not the problem, I get a lot of compliments on my looks and personality, etc. But I only have a small group of friends, I'm really very shy and quiet in school and in class and I'm kind of invisible at school. This guy is soo hot, he's really tall has blue eyes and blonde hair, he's popular, has his own car and is on the football team. He has so many friends and goes to parties and stuff, but he's really really nice and smart too. He's way out of my league, he doesn't even know I exist. We've never talked before, because I'm shy and intimidated by his female friends he hangs out with (the guys kind of but not so much). Today was the last day of school untill exams start, clearly he's not gonna ask me out when weve never talked, I know 4 sure I HAVE to give up on him, he's graduating this year. But he is just the HOTTEST GUY EVER! And I thought for sure he was my soulmate because I'm 5"10 and he's 6 feet and most of the other guys aren't tall. Also because he makes me smile like no other guy, I've never been so sure about a crush. We just got yearbooks today and I saw his picture and wanted to die because he's so hot. The thing is I seen pics of I'm on facebook drinking and smoking, etc and I don't really like guys like that but he's SOO HOT that I would die for him and no guy will take my breath away like that!
Well don't kill yourself over a crush. Guys aren't worth it! It takes two to tango so he needs to look your way or start showing some interest in you before anything of any kind is ever gonna happen. At first you were judging him by how hot he looked to you and by the hotness of his friends, girls and guys. But now that you've learned more about him in facebook, you suddenly got a picture of him that's not as good as you thought before. So do you only go for guys that LOOK hot or don't you desire that they also have some other good qualities to go with their looks too, like a good character or good values? Actually those are more important and it's quite common that those guys you really find hot expect more out of girls, and it's sad that girls give in too easy to them and that makes them even worst. I can't tell you to take your mind off his looks for awhile and dwell on these other things you just found out, but that's what you need to do. Looks aren't everything because as you know, looks are only skin deep. Demand more from a guy than looks. You need to try approaching him and stop feeling that you're inferior to him because in spite of his looks, he has some insecurities just like you do about certain things. None of us are made perfect. If he's not even nice to you when you try talking to him or responding to a note from you, why let yourself be frustrated forever over something you'll never get. Meantime, you'll be passing by some guys that'll truly make you happy and won't try getting you to drink, smoke, have sex all the time or whatever else. But, I don't mean to imply that guys that look hot aren't super nice guys too because I'm sure a lot of them are. It's just that looks go to ppl's head all too often and then they think that makes them they're better than the ones that aren't as attractive, but it doesn't! Fortunately, we're all made to look different for a very special reason.
girl, what's ur damage? that you wanna kill yourself over a guy! plus how can you be so sure abt him i mean you haven't even talked to him? move on, he's not worth itt !
I agree with ilovelegs- looks aren't everything. You have never talked before and he graduated. Just because he is hot does not mean you are soulmates, neither does the height issue. You have to understand it was just a high school crush and if things are really meant to be, then your paths will cross at one point in time. Why would you say he is way out of your league? You might be out of his league and not even know it! Don't sell yourself short, it will only hurt in the long run.
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