I'm SO confused, he said that he thinks about me everyday, and that he really likes me. But he also likes the girl that he's with. We are BOTH so confused. And, I just want to be with him SO bad, I would give up anything for him. I don't know what to do. This is a situation I have never been in. Input please. Please help me figure this out. It's not really a question I guess but please anything you may think about this please just let me know.
He could always date both of you. There are a lot of people who are engaged in multiple, open relationships who are very happy with the arrangement. As long as everyone is honest and polite, it can work out very well
I'm married and have several girlfriends and everyone is very ok with it.
Are you serious? About having several other girlfriends? - 2 months ago
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Very serious and happily married 15 years. It was actually my wife to be condition on marriage. She didn't want to see me give up the other women in my life because they were close friends and important to me and my emotional well-being. It's interesting because everyone is ok with it once it is decided. In fact, they tend to work toward keeping my relationships with other people stable and happy because it makes me happy.
I really wish I had known that monogamy is desired by all women. - 2 months ago
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Oh, one of the conditions of this is everyone knows about everyone else (if they want, if they don't, they at least know that there are other sexual partners). A good reference is "The Ethical Slut" by Lizst and Easton.
Its interesting that when you are dating, people are more likely to accept that there other people in your life. That can carry forward as relationships grow. - 2 months ago
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Well what about them? Can they (your wife and other girlfriends) see other people as well? Cause if that's how it worked, I would love the relationship. That would honestly be my ideal relationship, having the freedom to date others while still having your main significant other. I don't think my boyfriend would go for that though. - 2 months ago
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Of course they have that freedom. The only downside is that occasionally, a friend with get seriously involved with someone who is monogamous and winds up cutting off other relationships. It sucks but it happens. You learn to smile and wish them well.
I would look into it, you might be surprise how many guys are perfectly ok with it (in fact, most guys I know enjoy watching their lover have sex with someone else).
Good luck. - 2 months ago
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Yeah, normally it's the guys that want that sort of stuff. We are funny though, I'm almost more of the man. I do the typical man things, if that makes any sense. I kind of suggested it to him once and he didn't take to well to it. Any suggestions on how I could bring up again? A different way of approaching it. - 2 months ago
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Read "The Ethical Slut" first A good way to start is with group sex. Threesomes or hitting a swing club can go a long way toward convincing partners 1. You really mean what you say 2. They are free to have sex with other people as well 3. You can have sex with other people and still like them (this surprises people in a monogamous culture but I am still stupid in love with my wife 15 years later) 4. Sexual freedom improves relationships because there is one less reason to leave.
I'm not afraid to ask him. We've talked about it, about us. It's just really complicated, I guess I maybe shouldn't have asked about it on here when it's so hard to supply all the details. Thanks for your input though. - 2 months ago
You really need to talk to him bout this because he is making most of it confusing. You should explain to him that he needs to choose to be with the woman he has more feelings for. He may not like you saying this but you need to stand up for yourself because you are being taken advantage of whether it be intentional or unintentional. And in the case that he chooses her accept that and move on. It may be hard but you have to be strong and if you have friends that helps too. My best friend had her heart broken a few months ago and she got throught it becuase she talked to the guy and she had me and her other friends.
He thinks about you everyday but he wants to be with her as well. He sounds like a player to me. You really need to be strong and decide what to do. You can't put your life on hold for him. You are both confused, meaning you and the other girl? Maybe you two need to have a discussion about him.
Not her, him and myself are confused. They have a high school sweetheart situation. He doesn't want to hurt her. But I really do know that he genuine about his feelings for me. - 2 months ago
This situation is really his problem, he creates the problem he have to find the way out. You want to be with him because he gives you so much hope and he been stringing you so you don't go to another men. He clearly a selfish guy and its not fair for the girl too. Beside, you don't want to be known as the girl that break off the relationship. I would just date another guy and move on because karma do exist and what do, do come around second time.
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