Why do they use the excuse that theyve become to close of a friend?

Well you're right about it being an easier way for her to say no. I think most girls say that because they don't want to hurt a guys feelings but obviously you guys can see right through it. Lol.

Gosh the guy who told me that likes me and who was the first one to kiss me and compliment me a lot told me he wants to be friends with me. I mean, we were both attracted to each more than friends. I didn't ask him out, just we got into fight which I provoked and actually part of it was about him not asking me out, but still pleasuring me in bed. He told me that he wasn't using me, but I mean if he only looked at me as a friend, what kind of guy would initiate having sex, besides I'm very attractive. So maybe, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you, but there's some another problem. Ask her straight out whether she's attracted to you more than a friend.

I know I personally wouldn't ever use the friend card, especially if I liked someone. Sure, I realize there would be risks and our friendship would possibly not be the same if I dated a guy I was friends with, but I would also be willing to take that risk.

Because you creeped her the hell out. Give this a read:

The "Nice Guy"---and Why He's Not Nice
By Dropit

"Nice," as used in the community, is way different than "nice" as used by women.

When the community uses the term, it is a perjorative. But since to most people it's enjoys a positive connotation, I thought a little more definition would be helpful

The "nice" guy likes a girl. He starts by befriending the girl and denying any romantic interest (he figures: I'll prove I like her as a person, not just a romantic interest), secretly taking note of what she likes, and then giving the "perfect" gift along with a confession of his love.

Poor girl! She thought she had a friend, but now she finds out he was just acting the whole time. Alternatively, she is uncomfortably surprised from this lightning bolt out of a seemingly clear blue sky, and is worried about how to save the friendship without hooking up with the guy, perhaps adding to the rejection the caveat, "You're such a nice guy."

Eventually, she lets him down as easy as she knows how (remember, this is a good, kind girl here), and this guy wonders what he did wrong. He certainly didn't do anything mean; his ears perked up when he heard her complain about guys, and steadfastly worked to avoid doing those things. He figures he's being nice.

The problem is that these guys have a sort of male version of going for committment too fast. A relationship is a 50-50 venture, but he's gone 90-10, and he's basically trying to pressure her into liking him, claiming (or at least implying) that she "owes" him for all he's done for her. He is trying to force her into liking him, she senses the trap, and she splits.

Then she meets another guy. She regards him as moderately attractive (maybe even LESS attractive than the nice guy), and she figures he'd be worth a date. So they go out, and it's clear that they're on the same page---he had an open Friday night, so, hey, he called her up. Turns out he has a rough edge or two, but nobody has to be perfect. He calls her up for a second date, and again, it's clear to both that this is just a date. She hasn't put that much effort into it, but neither has he. At least he isn't trying to lasso her with guilt.

So when our self-proclaimed "nice" guy meets this new guy and sees that he's not working as hard as the "nice" guy did, yet she's dating HIM, he thinks: "What? I worked so hard for her! I did everything I could! I even watched her favorite show so I could find something to talk about! What's wrong? Why is she dating that jerk?"

The so-called "jerk" isn't really a jerk; he simply isn't as fawning as the "nice" guy. But the labels have been assigned in his head, and so comes the saying, "Nice guys finish last."

Yes people see through this: If a lot of people who date are able to become friends/good friends with their ex after they date (not all do; but some do become better friends after, just look at some of the questions on the site) then why use the "It could ruin our friendship" line; when the correct answer is "I don't feel the same kind of chemistry/connection between us," or "the chemistry was, but isn't there anymore." Something like that, whether guy or girl.

The friends line is an easy way out of the awkward moment, no matter how you look at it. If they really valued the friendship they would talk the situation through and not try to essentially "pass it off" as a detramental force to the friendship. And then they're like "we're cool" and forget about it.

But when you want an easy way out of an awkward sitution and/or you don't rumors to spread or anybody to think badly about you (even though they really can't think badly about you for being honest) and/or you think you might hurt someone's feelings - you might resort to saying this line.

And usually the person becomes more distant. And if they don't and you do become good friends after, then believe 'em, but if not then that is usually the reason why. Or in the ballpark.

I'll tell you why, its because there is a window you have from meeting a girl to dating a girl, and you screw up the window has closed on you. It's a dog eat dog world out there, women are constantly pursued by men, some are nice guys they don't stand a chance, and the others are assholes and players they always end up with the girl. The assholes and players know what to do they have the major advantage over the nice guy. Keep this in mind, the more you talk to a girl as in the phone online, or even text messaging, you may think alright she's into me, nope she's into you as a friend, then when you finally get the courage to ask her out bam she pulls the friend card.
Next time don't do it, what you need to do is get her attracted to you like you are to her, get the number ask her out on a date, then when your on a date with her act like your already her boyfriend get close to her touch her, if you let her know from the get go by your body language that your interested in her as in more than a friend then the better off you are. At the end of the date kiss her or at least try don't ever ever ask can I kiss you, if your worried about asking just say do you want to kiss me, or I would really like to kiss you right now. Now once you get that far when you drop her off tell her I would really like to take you out again say next weekend, more than likely she will say yes. By doing all of this you have already let her know hey I like you more than a friend. I

I don't understand it entirely because the girl I liked said the same thing but ended up telling me she liked me the whole time I was like WTF? pissed me off! lol

Well like most situations it can be a variety of things. One of the more common things is they use that as a safe way to say no with out upsetting you. The other main reason as to why, from what I have seen, is that the girl doesn't have strong enough feelings for you to risk getting closer. Basically the risk and drama that comes with dating friends (i.e. - fallout afterwards with other friends, awkward situations at social events.etc.) are greater than her desire to be with you. If the two of you click then you will both know and it will make sense to go for it. In the mean time those girls just aren't the right girls.

They feel that they already have what they want from you. In other words they have a certain sense that what you have is comfortable enough. A load of bull if you ask me. But I think they also feel weird if you become really close friends.