OK so I've seen several questions about being straight forward and playing hard to get, and other things about men in relationships. And the general consensus from the guys is that you shouldn't play hard to get because the guys will move on if they think you aren't interested. They say that you should be open with guys and let them know what's on your mind.
So why is it that when I (and all of my female friends) have ever told a guy the way I (or they) feel about him before he tells me (or them), he gets all weird and almost ALWAYS ends up finding an excuse to leave right away (leave the relationship or possible relationship, I mean)?
Update: Well, why also when they finally do express themselves and the girl doesn't respond the same right away do they get upset and back off then as well?
5 months ago
Well you see, we guys have a little complexity ourselves. We want to know how you feel but we don't want the rush having to make the decision of accepting the request or not. Its something that should change in this world. A woman should also make the first move, and the guy should not be a jerkwad and get scared when a girl approaches him. Bottom line. Make sure the guy likes you. Its kind of a reverse scenario. But you know the best way to handle the situation is make it more obvious for the guy and kind of taunt him into making the move even if it really was you .
Well what would you do if you buy a ham sandwich and instead you get tuna. You might eat it but you might not really like it cause it wasn't what you were hoping for. I know it sounds cruel but for us guys its better sometimes to discard our failed approach then to work around it. Some guys just don't understand the concept of just friends. Basically its like there was just one level of interest which is the more than friends but that don't work and now there is nothing to maintain interest. Not everyone view the two channels of interest at the same time. Some can see the friendship connection first and others can see the possibly mate. It depends on the person. Guys well, we tend to go first with the possible mate.
Could depend on the timing. Maybe you're expressing yourself a bit too early. It makes things a bit awkward when someone hardly knows you. It could also be that he only wants to be friends and wasn't really looking for a deeper relationship. Maybe he doesn't want to lead you on and hurt you later. A few girls have done this to me when I really only wanted to be friends. While I appreciated the honesty I felt a bit uncomfortable hanging out with them for a period of time because I was afraid I'd do or say something to make them think otherwise. Of course I'm still very good friends with most of those girls because for me it's difficult to throw away a good friendship like that. If a guy really does care about the relationship you share, deep or not, then he'll make the effort. He may just need a little while to "catch his breath" so to speak.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 5 months ago
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