I think I really hurt him. What should I do?

I'm glad you sent the letter. If I received an email from a girl that hurt me, I would definitely open it. Even if all bets were off regarding any reconciliation, I'd want to know what she had to say. I'm a "Why" guy; I need to know why things happened, not necessarily to fix them but to be more prepared for the future.

That being said, he may like your apology and respond positively. Let me ask you something: I know you said you explained yourself to him, but how much. Most (definitely not all) guys love explanation: A happened because of B, so if we do C we can have D instead of A again. Just a thought.

Good luck!

Well, this one is thought. I see that well you were frustrated and well that made you say what you said which in my opinion you have the right to be because he was leaving out an important part of a relationship which I know cause I'm passing true something almost identical only its the girl who lacks the showing of affection and know I'm not talking to her because she refuses to approach me to talk about the problem. But anyway. I think you shouldnt give him the list. Try to make him meet you somewhere and make it a place where you can focus on yourselves. Then tell him that you had failed to understand that the way he shared his affection mas more physical than verbal and that you werent thinking when you said he was some guy, because you wouldn't have given him yourself and if he was just some regular Joe that you would have share such a special moment with him. Apologies, then let him think it out. Never take your eyes of of his even if he looks away. Now if he is a sensible guy he might fight a little but then accept your apology, but if he won't then he is just giving it way to much bull. So its up to you, your goal now is to show him that he is a bigger part of your life, and sometimes love acts foolishly because it cares.

Yes! Send it! But then back off.
It seems like he's the kind of guy who has so much emotion that he's afraid to let it show (or so much emotion that he doesn't know how to let it show). A list like the one you are writing may let him know that you are safe and that he can be a little vulnerable with you.
The thing is, I think you should let it go after you send the list. The best way to chase a guy away, sometimes, is to chase him. Tell him how you feel in a way that is as lengthy as it needs to be and WAIT. At times it may be excruciating, but no pain, no gain.
Good luck.

I'm kinda in a similar situation.
First of all, you shouldn't have slept with him within a week. He may now probably think your easy, even though guys tend to want sex quickly it's kind of a test what they do to see what the girl is like. Whether she's easy or a hard nail to crack.

Guys can be quite tricky and you never know what they're actual intentions are. He hasn't made any attempts to give you the assurance that he likes you too, maybe he's shy or maybe he just wants to be friends with benefits. Although he shows affections (I got to give him props for that cause most guys don't) which leads me back to saying he's just probably shy.

What I can tell you that is give yourself a little break from him maybe a week or two. Get your head clear and see what your true feeling are and make sure it's not lust or an infatuation. Before you do that though tell the guy to do the same and after you think your break is over, you guys should talk about your feelings towards each other.

The list that you did is very good. I suggest that you ask him to do the same so you can have something to talk about. In the case that he is shy talking about his feelings make the situation as comfortable as possible.

If things work out in the end, whatever you do try not to have sex with him for about a month, talk about your relationship and where you want it to go. If it doesn't work out, it just wasn't meant to be.

ANYWAYS GOOD LUCK!