Am I foolish to believe that my prince will come?

Chivalry isn't completely dead. It's become hard to come by and there are many counter-notions that come with it in today's society.

When I was five, I had my first experience seeing a homeless person who asked my father and I for money. I reached in my pocket to give him a dollar and my dad told me not to because I wasn't sure what he was actually going to spend the money on. Now, at the time I didn't understand comepletely, but ,my dad was just trying to teach me not to become a victim form being generous. But this thought of becomeing a victim if you put your effort into something plays a part in the role of chivalry. Nobody wants to put themselves in a vulnerable position to get hurt, or waste their time

Another part of chivalry is that a person has to rise to the occasion of being chivalrous. And that comes from inside, because sometimes you got to be the stonger person not to care about how other people perceive you (label you as a nice guy or weak for being generous, whatever) for being chivalrous.

Then you got to know when to pick your moments to be chivalrous. Say a teacher sees a student having trouble, but lets a fellow student step in to help, and the teacher just watches the student become a mentor in a way to another student - without getting upset for dispupting the class or anything like that. Stepping aside to let another person play the role of the "hero" to grow as an individual is important.

Also when being chivalrous becomes routine, it can take on the effect of becoming "expected" or "boring." Like when I first think of being chivarous for a woman, I get the "old fashioned" thoughts of opening doors and carrying a woman over a puddle. But in todays society, women are more independant, and even though dating changed with the times, chivalry became uncommon. And now, I think it helps to take the time to get to know someone to use what you know about a person to be more chivalrous and romantic towards their personality(lol, so they appreciate it more) and it's one of a kind.

And the last thing about being chivalrous is that you talked about childhood: I have an older brother and a younger brother and then there's me: being the middle child I would get picked on by my older brother when I was really little. Then for no reason, I would pick on my younger brother. And then I realized how it felt when my older brother picked on me, so I didn't want to be like my jerk older brother so I stopped picking on my younger brother. But it took a realization to understand the bigger picture when I was young.

These guys are out there, even though they are hard to come by. You got to take the time to get to know a person to see what they're about. They have an understanding of what the bigger picture is. They also lead normal lives: run errands, go to work, and have friends, and go places. But they fit into a crowd well. So you got to watch the way guys act. And find out which ones are the "good apples" from the bad ones.

You're not foolish at all to believe that there is someone out there for you. It's my belief that there is someone out there for everybody, someone to make you truly happy and someone to be with for the rest of your life. Now here's where the prince charming part ends.

Life isn't a movie. There isn't a magical prince. This is the 21st century, prince is merely a title now. You're not going to meet your "prince" by just sitting around, looking out the window and waiting for him to walk by, see you in the window, proclaim his love to you and carry you off on his white horse (now known as a Corvette). If there is a guy you know, that you think could be your prince, whether he be a casual acquaintance, a cute guy in your economics class or a close friend, you have to put yourself out there and see what happens.

I'm not going to tell you that you're not going to get hurt. It might happen. But any guy that hurts you is definitely not your prince, so that is just one more guy to cross of the list. And wouldn't you rather that list get shorter instead of wondering about the same guys week after week?

Actually it is not that goofy. I always wonder if there is a perfect princess out there for me and I want to meet her someday

This seems to be every girls fairytale dream, to answer your question any guy can be charming and even chivalrous, but the problem is that chivalry in today's times is associated with nice guy, unless the guy is charming, but the problem with that is most nice guys aren't charming, and the charming guys are players. So yeah you can get a guy to treat you like a princess, but that guy would considered a nice guy and he ends up in the friends zone. The charming one on the other is the one you really need to watch out for, I think the saying goes a wolf in sheep's clothing, he gets what he wants and leaves.

If you consider the fact you are a princess, and any man worthy of your attention will acknowledge, and treat you as such, since you are created, loved, and supported by the King of Kings, then you are right to wait for the prince your Father is preparing for you. The question is, are you actively working with your Father, to prepare for the prince He is preparing for you? If not, you may be missing opportunities, as God is a gentleman who does not force Himself on others.
Since God sees you as precious, adorable and, not just loveable but, likeable, He should be the One you look to for the introductions. He never misses a beat, although He allows us to, so we need to stay focused on Him.
I found my princess when I was thirty two. I made the msitake of giving up when I was twenty five, and having a few flings. That was the biggest mistake of my life. I wish I had waited exclusively for her, and vice versa. As it is, we both carried a lot more baggage into our marriage because we didn't wait for God to do His thing. Now we both have to go through some intensive healing in order to give up our coping mechanisms that we took on to protect our selves, because all they really do is hurt the ones we care about, and our selves, in the end.

There are good charming men out there who are looking for girls who will also be good to them. Chivalry is not dead (although the kissing of a girls hand might be), but you have to know when and where to look for these guys. You probably won't find him at a crowded bar full of drunk people on a Friday or Saturday night.

The charming good men are most likely educated men, so find out where educated men hang out. Find out where the bars are that are a little quieter and relaxing; that is where educated men go when they get of work sometimes. Such bars are not located right in the middle of several other bars that attract drunk college students. Educated men are also likely to work out from time to time also; go to a gym regularly and you might find one there. If you are a college student, walk around campus in departments other then your own. The highest concentration of educated men can be found in the engineering side of campus.

But these charming, good, educated men won't find you; you have to venture into their turf and find them. These men probably will not just walk up to you and start to hit on you because that can almost be thought of as bad manners. But you can start conversations with them easily but most of them won't exactly do anything to grab your attention (because they are smart enough not to look like a douche bag in public). When you find one, he will sweep you off your feet after you get to know him, but you have to find him and get to know him first. And don't look to the most typical noisy places for them. Noisy places are always full of douche bags. There are many more places to look that I didn't mention; be creative, because they are when it comes to finding places to hang out.

I don't think it's all that foolish. Many girls will have given up on this idea a long time ago. And for you to hang on to what you believe in, that is an impressive and admirable character. The problem is when we make our dream lover too unrealistic, that is having qualities that is too unique and too fitting for us that hardly anyone in the real world can come close. So people like us just keep on wait and wait (I'm waiting for my princESS, not prince) So the ultimate question is, how long can you endure life without the love that you seek most? If you can't, maybe you should change what your idea of the ideal prince should be like a bit.

In this broken world, there are hundreds and thousands of frogs out there. It's very rare to find a good prince. Do you think you have the perseverance and tenacity to go through that many frogs to find your prince? It may be a very long and discouraging road, but once you find what you are looking for, I think it will be well worth it. But here is something really important you should remember. You just have to give just about every guy a chance because sometimes your prince may look like a frog at first, but somehow when you learn more about him, his true color will shine. Best of luck and happy hunting

Here's my take on it. Fairy tales aren't reality. Get that Disneyesque ideal romance stuff out of your head now and start living life to the fullest. If you sit back and wait for good things to happen to you, you'll live a very dull and unfulfilled life. That's the reality in which we live.

Well, I'm hopelessly romantic too. I believe that some day my prince will come but now I don't believe in it. After 28 years of my life, I don't see any prince or knight with shining armor within my reach. All the guys that act like a prince or knight with shining armor in beginning, usually in the end they are nothing but a loser. Many girls think like this usually get use by the guys anyway. I think you need to live your life to the fullest and stop looking for prince charming because you would never find one.

there are princes out there. I've found myself one. But you can't wait for him to come along. You have to go find him too. Have fun with other guys along the way but you'll know when you've found the right person for you.

yes. me and my friend, are, admittedly hopeless romantics. however, I believe you will find your prince charming.
i hope you do!
xo