A friend I have feelings for was with me last month and I have a question about his actions: Throughout the night he told me he loved me, wanted to make out with me, spent over 3 hours cuddling with me, during our cuddling was kissing my head and playing with my hair and rubbing my bare back, & told me how much he wanted to be inside me. He is still technically involved with someone else. I personally don't feel like he really has feelings for her anymore (but they are on a trip together that has been planned for months so I don't think he could leave her at this time). I feel like if he is feeling this way about me and doing these things with me then he has no business being with her. Its not fair to her or me. If he really loved her then he wouldn't have told me he loved me or allowed us to be topless together, he would have been true to her. Please tell me your feelings on this.
This is what I would do if I wanted a variance in my sex life and feel like cheating. Not that it happens these days. A long time ago yes. I still have echoes of "you make me happy. she no longer makes me happy.blah blah as I undid her strap".
Honestly he got quiet far with you and you shouldn't have let him. At least you did not go all the way with him.
He might really want you and you are within reach since you still have feelings for him. I always say this to my female friends whenever they ask me , let the guy suffer for a bit, don't give yourself to him for a certain amount of time. If he loves you he will wait. If he doesn't he will go look for sex elsewhere.
I hate to say this as a guy, but really sometimes the so called shit test and making a guy go through hoops works to ensure that he truelly does love you.
It sounds like he is using both of you. Who tells a girl he loves her and then says he wants to be inside her? Sounds like he just physically wants you, not emotionally. Honestly, did he care this much before he knew that you liked him?
My take on it is that he is either playing both sides of the fence, or very confused. Either way, he doesn't know what love is, or he would make a commitment to one of you before ever speaking about it. Love is not just physical. The physical expressions of love are meant for just that, expression of inward commitment, risk, feelings, and spiritual openness/bonding. It is possible he has issues that keep him from being able to commit clearly, but talking the way he is, with you, while still "with" another woman is cheating on both of you. I behaved this way once, and only once in my life, and it took over a year of cleansing for God to get rid of all the junk that led to that behavior. The worst part of it was that I wasn't supposed to be with either of the women, but I was too wounded, and focused on my pain, to be honest with them.
Well I personally believe that he wants you.and is just using her as some type of backup.If he really was for her he wouldn't allowed all of these things to happen.and to mention he is coming on to you from my point of view.IT sounds that you two should be together
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