I just recently got off the phone with this guy I have been dating. He is my high school sweetheart and I love him very much. He is in the army and is currently here back in our hometown. I started dating him just a week ago and broke up with my long term 2 year boyfriend to be with him. He doesn't have much time on his hands because of work and everything else that is going on in his life so he is tired most of the time. Many times he only calls me once a day or comes to see me sometimes. He had spent yesterday not returning my calls until today he finally answers and gives me the biggest shock of my life. He tells me his ex girlfriend might be pregnant with his baby and struggles to tell me how many months along she is by saying she is twelve months and then tells me she is seven months. I asked when he had sex with her and he told me it was in July when he went for basic training. Well we all know it is June so that couldn't be possible because that adds up to eleven months nearly. The kicker to this story is that his ex-girlfriend or former fiancé cheated on him by having sex with other men. This is what ended their relationship supposedly months ago. On the other hand he could have meant December and been so stressed that he couldn't think right. In that case what he is telling me is the truth which would make her almost six months pregnant. This is assuming that he made a dramatic mistake though and his is still a good guy. Then again why would he tell me the last time he had sex with her was in July? I feel hurt that there is a big possibility that he may be lying to me, after I have sacrificed my two year relationship to be with the guy I thought I knew. I thought military men were taught to be honest and smarter then this bull shit! I slept with this guy just a couple of days ago and he has the nerve to lie to me in my face about what is really going on. What the hell did she tell him to convince him to go back with her when she was being a dirty whore? She broke his heart and trust but somehow he sees that being with her is better then being with me. I hope to god he is telling me the truth, but I know deep down inside he is not. He is also getting deployed next year and I don't want to say anything bad to him before he gets shipped out. I still love and right now I am willing to forgive him if he is lying. He is destroying our friendship with this lie and my love for him as a friend. What should I do?
Update: An additional note is that he came back home in December for Christmas and may have had sex with her then, but he had told me recently it had been a year since he had sexual intercourse.
3 months ago
Update: Tomorrow he is supposed to meet up with me after he gets off of work and we are supposed to discuss this in person. Yet, I am determined to remain calm and not leave with harsh words. Any pointers on how I should deal with this situation?
3 months ago
that really sucks! well I can't say he is right or he is wrong but from what you are telling me he sounds like he likes playing games! first off all if I were you and I know this is difficult because this story relates to me almost the same, and e way if I were you I would drop it! you are going to have to deal with a baby mama now and believe me its no fun! I think the best thing to do is think abt what is it you want! are you willing to go through all the crap of him not being able to see you because he is going to spend time with his kid? you like it or not he will be seeing more of her and will be in both of ur lives! forget the cheating or not part focus on you and what benefits you! there's only one world and not a perfect one but you can help ur self get rid of some disappointments you are going to for sure have in the future! that's my advice! - *sophie*
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