What Do I Do ?????

I sure hate seeing you go out with a gangster type guy that you're kinda ashamed of right up front. I don't know what your attitude is with tattoos or smoking but if he just recently stopped smoking don't be surprised if he starts up again soon. Don't plan on stopping him being a gangster for you because girls can rarely change a guy like that for very long. Your parents may be kinda out of date with today's youth but they ARE much wiser, and it's sad that you have to try to have some kind of relationship with a guy behind their backs when it could be so much more fun to be open about it. What is it that you like about him so much that attracts you to him so much? Is it because he's such a smooth talker? Do you find him hot and cool? Do you feel proud when you're seen with him? I'm going to give you the best advice I've ever given anyone on here so far. Don't let it go any further than you already have and start holding back little by little until you have no more desires for him. Since you're concerned which means you think he might not be the right guy for you to pursue, know that your subconscious is trying to tell you something. It's telling you to back off because he probably only spells trouble for you ahead. It's not worth it. No guy is worth the trouble he could bring you.

Is he literally in a street gang?

If he is, then no you should not date him, and not so much because your parents say so. If this guy is a real to life gang banger, than you are putting your life in immediate danger every time you are with him. In public, behind closed doors, no matter where you are. Further, the more it becomes established you are his girl, you will flat out be in danger whether you are around him or not.

If the police don't arrest him, then someone from a rival gang may shoot him, or at him, in which case if you're around you will possibly be shot, and you could die from this. If either of those doesn't happen, you could be kidnapped off the street by a rival gang and held hostage while they wait for him to succumb to their demands, and in that case, what if he doesn't comply and says he doesn't care what they do to you? You're putting your life in the hands of someone who doesn't care about life.

That's nice that he quit smoking for you but I'm sure that will be the end of the compromises. Gang members have to swear a specific oath to be always be loyal to their set, above everything else. They are required to risk their freedom, their personal ideals, their hobbies, their lives, everything that makes them unique for the good of the gang, no exceptions.

Here's another scenario. Let's say several months from now he asks you to deliver a package in your car to a destination. The police are conducting surveillance on him, and see you leave with said package and pull you over. When they open it, they find narcotics. Since actual possession dictates the majority of criminal law, where does that put you? If you tell on him, the other members will try to get you before you can testify, and that's if you take the "deal" the police offer. If you don't tell on him, then you risk being in prison for several years.

The more important question here is this; Are you so far along with this guy that the relationship is so important to you that you are willing to risk your freedom and life for him? At this young age are you prepared to be at considerable risk at all times?

Well I guess I've been in your position literally. Anywayz I have older brothers that are really over protective of me,( more than my parents ) so rarely does a guy that knows this messes with me. When I used to smoke I would never dare bring a guy home, since they were gangsters as well. I had never planned on doing such a thing you know. But then my future hubby, the guy I happened to fall in love with, didn't mind this, he was a cholo as well, made it clear to me that one day we were gonna b together, yet I was to young, and wants to wait for me to be 18. Anyway he planed on changing his life for me and everything, I'm still dating other people, him too, but talk to each other everyday. I

I mean this is just a short description of my life, but I know how you feel. And I guess I think you should never change anyone, since you like him for what he is right. You could probably explain to him how your parents will respond to him. If he likes you enough he'll do something about it. Feel free to ask me anything, since I know where your at.