Typical Guy Advice

I don't think that talking to him about it would kill your friendship. Most guys that I know would probably be happy about it and otherwise would still be friends. Unless they're REALLY fickle.

Sometimes you can tell when that guy (nice or not) acts or behaves differently around than others; perhaps more nervous around you if he does like you. Not all guys have motives behind being friends with girls.

First of all, lemme clarify something for you, if I may. ALL guys have sexual thoughts about their female friends. We can't help it. I mean, unless she's a complete dog, it's bound to happen. It's natural, because men experience sexuality in a very sudden, visual and powerful way. What's the difference between a guy who genuinely likes you as a friend and a guy that just wants a piece of your ass? Simple: Respect.

I have had a few female friends in my time - in fact, I have a good one I've known for a while - she's got an absolutely great ass, I'm talking sculpted art. She's blindingly beautiful. Except that I am happily married, with two girls. And I love my wife, blood, bone and soul. So, We're "just" good friends. Why? Because she's also a great chess player - and she drinks Whiskey, something I just adore in a Southern Belle.

So, to answer your question. "how do you bring up this issue?". Answer: You don't. If your nice guy feels comfortable, he'll come to you. If not, there are other issues preventing him from doing so (such as marriage or being involved).

Remember one thing. ALL guys look and have nasty thoughts. Good guys don't act on them, unless they know it's right.

Well first I'd like to say be careful there is a difference of actually having a nice guy and having a guy who is really good at faking nice, and well there is still a bit of risk of killing a friendship by trying to advance like that, however if he's a nice understanding guy even if you two end up more than just friends and something bad happens for you two to not be boyfriend/girlfriend he should be more likely to still be your friend as long as it wasn't too bad. If you're going to be trying to move your relationship with him in that direction at he's not a straight forward guy because he's shy or something out right ask him if he wants to, and if he doesn't seem to be ok with it you can play it off as a joke. As for how early, long enough to at least suspect he might have feelings for you too. As for signs could be as simple as him trying/touching you more than usual or just trying to be around you more and more, or it could be bigger like teasing you or complimenting you on things he normally didn't before. Some guys do have motives other than just being your friend, and I'm guessing you're thinking the other motives are sexual, well if so no not all are, some want money some want advice the majority I would say are after sexual things though, but I don't think all motives outside being your friend as bad, such as wanting your advice. Sorry for the long response, I hope my answers were helpful.

You know a nice guy likes you when he starts paying particular attention to you. He'll talk to you just a little bit more than he usually does, he'll ask you to hang out more than the two of you normally do, he'll touch you; really, you'll know.
And sadly, I think many guys do have motives behind being friends with girls.

I'd love to give you advice on how/when to talk to him, but I just don't know. I'm not too fantastic at that myself, unfortunately.

Yes, well I have been asking myself the same question!
I think that not every guy has hidden agenda behind his actions, but some of them do, and the most confusing of all of the situations is when he STARTS to develop feelings for you. When he doesn't know what is going on and just wants to talk to you all the time, wants to be around you as much as possible, wants to stay in contact no matter what, needs to hear from you every single day, wants you to do some fun stuff with him, and invites you everywhere! Sacrifices himself for you in some ways, when you're feeling down he feels down too, so he tries to make you smile, and will go to any length to see that cute little grin on your face that he so well knows and loves!

Well.there are many signs. Those are just some of many!
I spoke (wrote) from personal experience, so I know it's true!

Hope I helped!




*StillWater*

Some one told me once that no matter how good of friends you are with a guy. He has a motive behind being your friend. However, I don't think that's true. I've been "one of the guys" my whole life. I've overheard my guy friends say that they would never sleep with me because I'm their friend or like their sister. Which, I guess, I see as good because that tells me that they really are my friend and not just looking for something else.