He is 24 and I just turned 18. He wants to take me out to dinner, but that is kind of a big age difference. I know my parents would not approve of the age difference, but he is a nice guy. Before I go out with older guys my dad always reminds me,"Rye, remember, there is a reason why he can't get someone his own age."
I don't have feelings for this guy of anything. I've only seen him in person like twice. I would give him a chance if we were closer in age.
In fact, I've already turned him down at least twice. I told him straight up that my parents would not approve yadda yadda yadda, but he still continues to pursue me.
Should I go with him? If I should not go with him, how can I let him down easy without letting him think he still has a chance? lol
I don't usually approve of big age gaps when someone is such a young age (18 and he's 24), but when you're 40 and the other person is 46 it's a completely different story.
However, if this guy is taking you to dinner and THAT'S IT, then I see no reason not to get yourself experienced in that whole dating realm. Learn what it's like to date an older guy kind of thing. Just, remember a few things:
1. A date is a date and it doesn't mean you're going out, so you can stop talking to him and it'll be legit. (I sounded cool there)
2. You can bail on the date at any time, you have no requirements to stay if you don't like him.
3. If he tries ANYTHING, invite you somewhere after, to his house, to his CAR, or anything, walk away. Have him make the plans and stick to them, if he starts adding on trips after dinner he's got some ulterior motives besides dinner. Go to dinner, and go home, ALONE.
This advice is just because of the age gap though. Anyways, if the date goes well, go on more, and each time you might do more and more stuff with him and eventually you'd have no problem getting into his car or going to his place or something. Just, be safe and slow when it comes to big age gap dating, and well, dating in general.
hmm your father is right. but then again. Its practically impossible to find a girl such as yourself, no matter what age. I think you should listen to your dad. there's plenty out there =)
Maybe you should wait for someone you like to come along because your parents are right. He probably can't get anyone his own age so he wants to go out with you because he thinks you're gullible. I don't know much about dating, I'm only 16 but I've already been in your shoes once and I went out with the guy and he didn't turn out to be how I expected. Maybe you should wait for someone who will live up to your standards.
If you're not comfortable with him, then he's not right for you. But just let him know you're sorry but you aren't comfortable with it, and maybe you could just be friends. I mean the age difference later in life won't be a big thing. Maybe in getting to know him better in being friends you may end up liking him later. If he however makes a big deal out of it and doesn't want to be just friends, then your dad would be right about him.
Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I would suggest a small hike on a peaceful trail followed by a nice home-cooked meal, made by me of course, either on-site or back at one of our places. After dinner is over and the conversation has died the date would end with a kiss on the hand and a walk to the car.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
My date would know what I am about, who I am, a little about what I do and hopefully whether or not I am a candidate for a second round.
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