Ok guys this is quite a read so bear with me. So I hook in with this girl about a month and a bit ago. We kissed for while and after she had to go, she came back asking me if she could leave me her number. I said, yeah fine. So I then arrange a date with her but the night before, she tells me that she is seeing someone else. I said that it was a pleasure meeting you and that I hope everything goes well for you in the future. She told me that she really appreciates my understanding and that "No doubt I'll see you around". A few weeks pass and then I get a message from her telling me that she's going to have a birthday party at this place. I tell her that I'm not going if she's seeing someone else. She tells me that she actually isn't so I decide to go. I turn up at like 1:15 AM and get refused entry because it's after 1 AM. She told me that she couldn't believe that they didn't let me in. So I try to arrange a date with her but she is unsure and will let me know. She ends up not letting me know and I tell her that I don't put up with that shit. She says that she's sorry and that I should have reminded her. I proceed to tell her that she is an adult and that I shouldn't have to. Messages me back "ok don't be mean now". Then a few minutes later followed by "I aplogized...what more do you want from me?". I said that I accepted her apology, it's cool and that she shouldn't do it again. So I then ask her "So do you actually want to do shit or are you not interested? Be honest." Next day she tells me she's going to this place for the night with a friend. I tell her that I will only come if my mates come and that if she won't be there it's fine because we're going either way. So we turn up and then she tells me that she and her friend have left. I message her back saying that I'm not surprised and that we will still have fun without them. Few days later, I try to arrange a date but she keeps telling me she's busy. "I can't this Thursday, lol, I'm busy sorry...you want me to like you? I think you're cute but... hmmm...." I message her back, "Of course you really like me otherwise you wouldn't reply to my messages, little noob" and then I get a reply, "Yeah ok XxXx". I message her back again, "So you really like me but you don't wana do anything? Yeah, lol, really thinking straight there." And that's it so far, haven't gotten a reply yet. What the hell is going on, lol?UPDATE* I just got a reply today: "your messages are really confusing me! You're weird."UPDATE* Got another reply from her without messaging her back, "You're Strange!"
Update: Well it's been 4 months and now she's talking again...right...
10 months ago
Wow, confused! My head is spinning. You guys are flippin nuts, I say forget her. She either doesn't know what she wants and is keeping you around as a safety. Or she really isn't interested and doesn't know how to tell you.
rosynante
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
I would be so confused by your messages to. You sound kinda mean. Also, just because a girl replies to your messages doesn't mean she likes you. Girls just like to talk. Even though you sound kinda mean, you also sound interesting and funny so she may just want to be your friend or play with you until she figures out what she wants.
You both just did my head in. Either she's not allowed out and she doesn't want to tell you that's why she always bails or is too busy or she's just a head f**k.
Genesis5
(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
Ummm, what?
That really made my head hurt. From what I can make of it though it sounds like you get too upset (and worse, you tell her) when something doesn't go through.
I do admire how straight-forward you are though. Asking her if she likes you and wants to hang out like that is pretty straight to the point. After all, if you want it to go somewhere, and she doesn't, why hang out at all.
Although, since she keeps messaging you back, she does seem interested, so I wouldn't worry about that. She just seems to be playing games with you. Trust me, women love to do this (and trust me, the older they get, the more devilish their games get).
To wrap this up, she seems interested, stop chasing her so hard (and don't get so upset and bent out of shape when something doesn't work out, women like guys that can keep their cool). Keep shooting her straight, and just text her and let her know that you want to chill sometime, so whenever she is out to let you know. When she gets back to you (and she will) if you are close by go hang out, and if not, tell her your with your boys, and you'll catch her some other time.
If she is really interested, it will drive her nuts that she can't get you running everytime that she calls you. If she is not interested, then you can move on.
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