My boyfirend of 2 years and I broke up a few days ago. We had been having problems since he wanted his "space" about 4 months ago. I tried to give it to him but it just was too difficult after a while. It was as if he asked me to go backwards in the relationship.
It was kind of a mutal thing, expcept that I told him if he would just meet me halfway on a few things we could stay together. He felt he couldn't and that he won't be able to give me what I want in life so it's best this way.
He wants to meet me tomorrow to collect his things he left here. I agreed and now I'm afraid (1) I can't handle watching him walk out that door forever and (2) I'm afraid the attraction between us will end us up in bed togerher.
He told me the other day that no contact was best for us, yet the last 2 days he sees me online and he messages with me for an hour. He makes comments about me dating again, looking for new guys as if he's jealous. If he's jealous and wants me...why is he ending us?
Is it possible he's not sure, or he felt the only way for him to get the space he wanted was to end it completely with me? Should I meet him tomorrow or tell him to wait until a later date? He told me he wants to get his things because he doesn't want me holding them over his head as a reason to reach him....and I gotta tell you that one hurt big time...a real quick in the gut!
I realize you already dealt with this yet if you are still wondering why he was still talking to you and so on about all that stuff online and why it seemed like he did not want to be with out you but ended it..... this is the entire reason he said it would be best for no contact you gotta give him that space as much as it hurts you if he messages you tell him hey you wanted your space so I am respecting that we can talk and be friends later when we are both ready cause no doubt that is hard on you too.
He will most likely come back and just got scared but you have to give him time all that he needs and then decide if you even want to take him back after all of this good luck and I hope if time has already played out that everything worked out for you!
This part is one of the hardest times in a broken relationship. It just rips out your heart to watch him come over, take his things and leave.
But, it has to be done. You broke up for a reason and you have to stay strong now.
You could have a friend be at your house instead of you.
Whatever you do, be strong and don't whine or go crazy. You are better off alone than in a bad relationship. Act strong (even if you are faking it) and you'll actually feel stronger, know what I mean?
If you sleep with him again, it will only make things worse. If he truly wants you back, make him chase you, not simply lure you into bed.
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