What is up with this hook-up culture that has overtaken today's society?

I completely agree with what your saying and I can relate to this a bit. I'm a freshman in college and I like to go out and party. I went out with some friends of mine and met a guy that I thought was hot and hooked up with him. We kept talking for awhile after that, but it just wasn't what I was looking for. I prefer to have a guy ask me out and treat me like a lady and not just f*** then expect to make something out of it. So I think you will find that some girls may follow the stereotype but deep down they want something meaningful and will later come to realize they want a real man not a man wh*re. I know I have learned from my experience and will be giving nice gentleman like guys a chance and I won't go for the big partier that just wants a one night stand. I learned my lesson :)

I don't get it either all my best friends are breaking up or already did break up with there boyfriends so they can have fun and so how many guys thy can hook up with. Personally I like being in a relationship so much better because you have someone that actually cares about you. I think now adays its more acceptable to hook up because people don't want to have to make a commitment to one person but who really knows if some one does I would like to know to

I think it is partly because our society/culture has become so much more liberated. Women are now more, open, independent, aggressive, and they see themselves equal to men. If men can have one night stands, then why can't we? Just like men, some women have sexual needs too. I think the reason why they hook up more in bars/clubs/parties, or any event that involves alcohol, is because they loosen up more, having alcohol in them. They become more friendly, horny, aggressive, flirty, etc. Then a random guy comes along, maybe cute, or whatever, gives that girl attention, they flirt all night, and then "hook up". I'm not saying all but most people FLIRT a lot when they are drunk, and flirting leads to horniness. I'm sure you've experienced that too. But anyway, the reason why these girls start having feelings for the guy after theyv had sex, is because SOME of them, feel vulnerable all of a sudden. They don't want to feel used for just sex, and so they try to start a relationshp with him. The guy on the other hand is thinking, well I liked the sex, and shez cute, so why not give it a shot. And they eventually learn to like/love each other. In most cases, that kind of relationship doesn't work. But there are some relationships I know, that succeeded.
Now, I might be wrong about this, because I have never had a one night stand before. Call me REALLY old fashioned, but sex means alil more than just sex. wow that didn't make sense :/ but you know what I'm trying to say. I can't have sex with a guy unless I have feelings for him, and I know he does for me.
Most of the girls I go out with "hook up", everytime. And that ismostly what they talk about. They get mad at me for never going home with ANY guy. I just cant. I go to bars to drink and unwind. Play pool, have fun. Not look for sex, or a boyfriend. Because when I have alcohol in my system, I'm not really thinking/seeing clear enough to choose the man I want to be with. I mean, hell, I get fooled even when I'm sober! So ---
Although this is the way I am, I don't see "others" as whores or whatever. I mean, like I said, women have changed, and they all have their own reasons.
As for you Mr. maybe when you asked these girls out, you WERE alil too forward. And maybe they weren't drunk enuf yet :p haha JK

I definitely agree with all of what you're saying. Relationships should be based on getting to know each other at first. How could you have any idea if you're compatible and would have a good relationship if you just have drunken sex with someone you barely know? All of my relationships started with dating, and slowly got more serious. I'll admit I have had a one night stand, but it was with a friend and even so, I regret it completely and can safely say that I won't and couldn't ever do it again. But the people who are into the hook-up culture don't regret one night stands if they keep doing it, and especially the girls seem shocked when the guys either have sex with them and never speak to them again or the relationship they built only on sex fails. I don't think it's just a college thing, because high school kids do it too, as well as people even out of college. I know hooking up has happened for a really long time, it's not a new concept, but in my opinion something really needs to change

I have wondered the same things myself. I'm a trojan too!

I totally agree. A lot of people "hook up". Call me old fashioned but I like chivalry and courtship. Now, it is hard to find a guy like that. But sometimes I wonder if a guy would actually date a girl he met with by "hooking up" with drunkenly at a concert or something? Or are they still on the search for the chaste virgin, such as in Hamlet where he does not want to marry Ophelia seemingly because she is not a virgin? is there a double standard? Such as, I don't like you unless I can hookup with you, but I would never be with you in the long run because you did that.hmm.

I remember I saw a phrase somewhere that went a bit like this:
"In the pursuit of happiness, many settle for satisfaction".
I totally agree with everything your saying, and for a guy I'd classify myself with more traditional morals which I abide to myself so thus my outlook on women who do the opposite to me I'm not exactly a fan of.
But I also think, who am I to cast stones and say what the best way to live is.
I'll find a women that sees how I do, and if there are none.a man:S I joke, I joke.
Be cool

It might be cynicism these days.girls want the ideal relationship but are so dead set against believing they'll find it that they find it easier to lower the bar so that they don't get hurt. At least that's my theory.

Or it could just be that they just want to fool around before they have to settle down. Maybe adulthood is scary, with all the responsibilities, so they want to avoid it as long as possible.and so "serious relationships" are the last thing they want until later on.

All of society is that way. I'm way older than you and thank God I'm married because most of the single women prefer going out to bars and picking up total strangers for one night stands, which is dangerous among other things.to having any sort of serious relationship that might tie them down.and they're mostly over 30.

The next day they make fun of the guys and tell funny stories about them which are a howl to listen to, but after a while you sort of feel sorry for them because this is their only romantic life, in the case of most of the single women. The only exceptions seem to be the ones who are sleeping with their bosses, who are usually married and much older than them.not what I'd call a desirable alternative to the bars.

Yes it's weird out there. But the women seem to want it that way on the whole, except for the dwindling number of old fashioned girls who settle down with their high school sweethearts.

I see this pattern too. And from the looks of it, society appears to be evolving in a very maladaptive away. In other words, it's getting f@#k up. It's very disappointing to see how the nastiness has taken a grip on our society. I am a traditional guy myself who honestly would like to get to know the girl first be fore the bang. But it's so hard to approach women no a days thanks to those guy who ruin the reputation of approaching men. I get this feeling that most women will blow off a decent guy when he approaches because she feels like he'll ask for a hook up. If things continue this way, decent men will be discouraged to do the initiation and start a meaningful relationship.

I agree. It seems that some of the ladies have forgotten the art of courtship.