It's about time girls started sharing the expenses of the date. If you don't it encourages the idea that women are to be bought.which leads to a lot of problems.
OF course a lot of guys think they HAVE to pay if they want a second date or ever any 'happy ending'.so I know they will often insist.
It depends where you want the relationship to go, I suppose. A lot of girls just want free meals and entertainment and aren't even considering seeing the guy again.
The person who asked out the other person pays. So if you asked out the guy you pay. If the guy asked you out he pays. Since the guy normaly asks he may normaly pay. I think its a nice jesture if the person who didn't pay pays for the second date if they realy like them. If I pay for the first date and the girl offers to pay for the second it goes a long way and it will score a lot of brownie points. Don't hold it against the person if they don't pay for the second date and you payed for the first. But if they did I would maybe say this one is a keeper.
The person who asks for the first date is the one who should pay. Beyond the first date it really doesn't matter at all. Girl will pay sometimes, guy will pay sometimes, sometimes they'll pay for themselves. Why does this even matter?
I agree and disagree. The reason I agree is because TAKING GIRLS OUT TO EAT IS EXPENSIVE!!!!!! Yes ladies that's right! $50-$100 on dinner is a lot to be dishing out on every first date. What if I'm going out on 5 first dates this week? There goes the rent! I know you want to be the only one, but that comes with time. On a first date you are just a prospect and we are trying to get to know you. - 2 months ago
On the other hand, I normally pay because I believe there is a little bit of chivalry in the man paying for the first date. Although, like I have stated in my own answer, there are other things that I pay very close attention to. I'll give you a hint to one of those things. Check out the movie 'A Bronx Tale'. That's right ladies us men pay attention to that stuff. - 2 months ago
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Notsobad you are gay lol.. but your cool hahahahaa - 2 months ago
ok here is the deal. I would take the girl out to eat and wait for bill. When the bill comes I would proceed to pay the bill. I respect a girl that offers to pay, but I would decline her request and pay the bill myself. If she is persistent then I will say, "Ok, pay the tip." I will lose interest in her if she doesn't offer to pay anything, but she can redeem a few points if she buys me coffee/dessert later in the date. On future dates, depending on how the first date went, I might make a few changes to my program.
I also pay close attention to many other things. but I'm not willing to share those. mwah ha ha ha
On the first date, I think the guy should def pay (maybe I'm old fashioned) but COME ON it's gentlemanly! But as things get more serious I think that girls should at least offer. Just my thoughts :)
I've always been told that whoever asks for the date is the one who pays. When it gets more serious then it should be like every other time the girl pays. My parents normally split or one pays for the meal and one gets the tip.
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