I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 9 months. I have noticed that the longer we have been together the less you have been having sex. I try things to spice things up , also have tried to dress in customs for him such as maid, or his old hockey jersey and other things, a lot of the time that doesn't even seem to spike a interest. He tells me all the time that I'm beautiful and hot but he doesn't wanta do anything. A lot of the time he says that he is tired. Just wondering if something could be stopping him from wanting to do that or if he has lost interest. I try to bring it up but he never wants to talk about it. I have asked him is there someone else and he said no. So wondering what you think or any ideas what I could do.
It's normal for the frequency of sex to change in a relationship. If he hugs you and tells you he loves you, that's a _very good_sign he loves you and is affectionate.
His sex drive might simply be less powerful than when he was younger. He could also be tired, worried, depressed.
The _way_ you talk about sex could be a factor, too, if he feels nagged or under pressure. He might not understand this is a problem for you.
A few other ideas:
*Phone him at work, and tell him you're hot for him that night. This might charge his brain up, and get him in the mood gradually as he thinks about you all day. *Make orgasm and intercourse less important; guys can feel like sex is a contest and they have to "win." But focus on touching and closeness might relax him. *Act the way you did when you were first dating. Not only the sex, but the excitement of a new relationship. Do you have a regular date night with him?
It really verys its been about once every week and a half to 2 weeks. - 3 months ago
Answerer
Well he may have some stress going on in his life. Sex fluctuates in relationships.Has he always been this way or is it lately? - 3 months ago
Question Asker
Well its been this way for several months now. Just not sure what to do or think at this point. - 3 months ago
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How has your relationship been between one another? - 3 months ago
Question Asker
I would say good for the most parts when get into little fights her and there but always get through it. He hugs and kisses and tells me he loves me everyday. And we enjoy being around one another. - 3 months ago
Answerer
Well I would say it's just one of those plateaus. Some people are not as sexual as other people are. How often would you rather have sex? - 3 months ago
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