One of my best friends is my guy friend. When we are together, we're always smiley and flirty, but it's just the way we are--it's natural. We are very close and talk all the time about everything (girls he likes--he always wants to know what I think, and guys I might like--he never gives helpful info), but the only thing we can't talk about seems to be what's up with us. I'm pretty sure he likes me, but I already accidentally told him that I think of him as just a friend and he seemed kinda crushed, but he's obviously over it because he has other crushes and he still hangs with me all the time. I still get a HUGE vibe that he likes me though, when he's sitting really close or staring at me or putting his hand on mine or playing with my hair or always trying to be there for me while making sure we are close enough for him to share everything with me. We are definitely close enough for me to ask him if he likes me but I don't know if he would tell the truth. Also, I don't know what I would say AT ALL if he asked what I thought about him. Do I confront him? What other way is there to find out what he's thinking about us?
I had a similar situation to this about year ago. We hung out all the time, shared everything, did homework together, had our meals together. Neither of us confronted each other about "us," and it was rough for both of us, (especially me). She would play the jealousy card and I would do the same.
Long story short, we aren't close anymore, we basically aren't even friends anymore. The whole confronting thing is one of the hardest things you can do with the opposite sex, but it is important if you share those feelings he had, (might still have for you).
I think you should really ask yourself if you want to know, and if you do want to know, how will you respond to that? Will you bring up the "just friends" thing again? (which is epically crushing, btw)
Also, ignoring your feelings about wanting to know could be just as bad. It's a really touchy subject, so you should go on your best instincts.
I'm terribly sorry if this answer didn't well. answer much, but that's my experience and my opinion.
Wow your story is truly depressing. I am sorry that it turned out that way for you. I thought about my situation, keeping what you said in mind, and I don't think I see him as just a friend anymore. Also, I had sort of an eye opening situation this weekend when I went to dance with a different guy. I saw other couples slow dancing and it was really sweet. However, the entire time it was obvious that I was with the wrong person; all I could think about was my guy friend. I'd like to do something. - A month ago
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