Over a year ago I was dating this guy with whom I share an intense sexual chemistry. We both jumped into bed very early in the game and it lasted two months before he simply stopped calling me. Fast forward a bit and he started to pepper me with text messages, asking me to catch up. I wasn't playing hard to get, but I was extremely wary of what this guy might want with me - after all, he did a runner - and my gentle feelings couldn't handle another hit like that one.
He wouldn't go away though, so eventually - partly due to morbid curiosity about what he could possibly want - I agreed to meet him for dinner. That was a week ago. We went out and had a great time. The chemistry was as strong as ever. His explanation for the runner was that he had gotten very 'clinical' about our age difference (I'm 7 years older) and wasn't sure that he was ready for the same things I was ready for. He claimed he regretted it ever since and has felt terrible about it. He said he's been thinking about me for months because he hadn't experienced anything as intense as what he experienced with me, and the thought of someone else putting their hands on me engendered a 'primal' reaction in him. (His words). He says he wishes he'd just kept having fun with me and that perhaps we may have just continued to have fun together forever.
I felt he was sincere, so I agreed to give him another chance. My catch - no sex until I was sure we were on the same page (ie. in an exclusive partnership and heading for something serious). In that week, we went out on three dates. He even suggested no sex until December! For us, that's a pretty big deal as most times we want to rip each others clothes off. But I feel it is important to make sure this connection with this guy is about more than just sex.
Our last date, four days ago, was good. We saw a movie. He wanted to catch up on the weekend, but my mum was in town so I couldn't. He asked if I would get in touch with him though, and I said yes. I sms'd him the next day and didn't hear back. I didn't text him the day after that (Sat) but Sunday I texted him again just saying I hoped he was well, and I still haven't heard back. So it's been four days since the first text and I haven't heard a peep.
Obviously, I'm worrying that he's done another runner. But I also know that I have serious insecurity issues in relationships because of past experiences. I am seeing a counsellor about these issues on an ongoing basis and I'm aware that I might not be reading the signs properly or jumping to conclusions.
I know you guys can't answer for him, but what do you think I should do? Should I leave the ball in his court now, get on with life (as hard as it is) and assume he's done a runner or should I call him and find out what's going on? Will that make me seem clingy or be a turn off? I'm just having trouble understanding how things could have been so 'on' just four days ago and now there's radio silence.
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(Age:18 to 24)
When: 2 months ago
Call him once and only once and if he doesn't answer or gives you the run around then move on. This will not be clingy unless you keep doing it. Maybe your texts didn't go through? DONT TEXT HIM ANYMORE THOUGH! Call him once and then if he is a jerk let him go. You gave him another chance once.
It seems to me he might have bailed but four days is not an eternity. I would think perhaps you should wait for a week to call, if you still want to call by then. He has most liklely gotten your msgs (he used to get them before after all). I guess the age difference has not gone away though I'm not sure that is still an issue. It will always be a 7 year age difference, so he may continue to waver if that truly is something he is not resolved on.
The truth is if I were you, I would wait for him but I also know it is very hard. I just think the ball is definitely in his court now.
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