Why are some women so insecure?

Alot of times there was something in their past to make them feel that way, like maybe she over heard a man tell another woman this when she was even 5 and psycholoically scared her, I had just started to go to marrige counsiling, because I feel the same way and actually it was my father that would say things to my mother and now it's an inscure issue with me, SUCKS! It's crazy how things you don't even remember make you who you are.

because a lot of women believe that they have to be total perfect to be worthy of attention. When others look at us they see us as a whole and think wow she looks good, etc etc but when we look at ourselves we look at things in minute detail, right down to every mole, pimple, hair and we are a lot harder on ourselves than others are, so giving ourselves a hard time and sometimes being insecure aswell.

The changes that a girl's body goes through are more drastic than the changes a guy goes through, and you don't always know what to expect. I mean, I happen to have my mother's build, but my two sisters don't. When you have an ideal body image that you can't achieve, it's hard.

Plus, my friends tell me all the time that they love my figure and they're jealous of my curves, but if I don't see that myself, it doesn't mean much. And for my friends to be jealous of my curves, they obviously have body issues too. Generally speaking, when women look at other women, they see flaws in themselves.

Its a girl thing like we could be told by everyone how good we look and all it takes is just one person or comment to bring a chick down/. Especially if they aren't sure about themselves. Like for chicks no matter who we are and what we do it always comes down to the "survival of the hottest" and we always have to told re-assured I know it sucks but its the truth we need to be told if we look good or not because it shows that someone noticed us

-some girls compare themselves to others and don't think they measure up
-maybe some used to be ugly and still feel that way even if their looks have changed
-some had someone important in their life keeping them down and telling them they're ugly
-girls get judged a lot more on looks than guys do. If everything on TV and in real life says that a certain type of girl is better and you look nothing like her, of course you feel like crap

Because they have a poor self image and low self esteem.

Women are a lot different then men. If there is one flaw about themselves they seem to take a dive. We compare ourselves to other women who seem to have the perfect body or legs, thinking we want to look like that. Not all women. though. You are who you are. We should be comfortable with ourselves.

We like hearing how attractive you think we are. Actually we love it, we would like nothing more than for you to tell us every day that you think we are sexy, or beautiful, or cute, or hot, or pretty. Not the same thing every day because that would just make it generic. But we disagree with you because we want you to keep going on about how smitten you are.

However, DO NOT keep telling a girl how sexy they are if they disagree, that will just feed the annoying fire that is low self-esteem, just say "I just wish you could see yourself like I do." and end it there.. The truth is we don't need you to tell us, we know men love women, we just want to hear it.

Women often aren't sure of their roles in a rapidly changing society, and they don't have as many options generally as men do.they are expected to make themselves attractive, behave a certain way.it's changing and of course men have some of the same issues, but women are not often as adaptable, still often supposed to behave the same way as women in an earlier era in SOME situations, but are supposed to be 'modern' in others.

Perhaps they are not content to appear attractive to just regular people they know, but would like to be on par with the stars they see on TV and the movie screen and get offers to model. I've met some girls who I find sexier than many stars. But if I tell them that they are more my type than Julia Roberts for example, they won't buy it. Julia is no doubt pretty, smart and terrific actress, but my taste is just in another direction. I see attractive things about many women. Would I like to look like Tom Selleck or some other hunk? Sure. But if my woman likes the way I am, then what can I ask for?

Because there's a billion dollar industry depending on that response. From make-up to fashion to diet pills and programs, hundreds of companies are dependent on women looking to them for advice on how to be better, be beautiful, be worthwhile.

As Foucault noted, power produces. The "normalization of the power of normalization." We tend to forget that our media and culture have the capacity to not only stop actions (in the sense of repression and law) but to produce them by inculcating particular, profitable beliefs in us. The "Killing me Softly" series highlights this well.

Think about "Cosmo." Where does their money come from? Ads - from these same make-up companies, diet plan companies, fashion companies, that have a vested interest in being able to sell self-improvement to a captive audience. And the articles fall in line. They have to - or the money goes elsewhere. Manufacturing consent.

As kateem notes, "they have a poor self image and low self esteem." A sentiment echoed by pearl1979, "We compare ourselves to other women who seem to have the perfect body or legs, thinking we want to look like that. " She notes, correctly, that not all women are like that and that they should be comfortable with themselves anyway. But, by and large, there's a hell of a lot of money invested in them not being that way.

And those dollars are invested in creating insecurity, low self esteem, and low body image.