About 6 months ago I met this girl through friends and she flirted very heavily with me constantly particularly when none of my male or female friends were around. One night we were on the beach after a few drinks and we kissed. I wasn't expecting it even though I initiated it but my friends said they could see it coming a mile away. She wanted me to stay the night but I was a bit blown away by the whole situation and went home.
I called her the next day to to talk about this and she pretty much blew it off as a mistake because we had been drinking the night before. The thing is that similar situations like this continued on for a couple of months but whenever I made any advances while sober she gave me the just friends talk.
I could tell that she really liked me and I wasn't prepared to let it go so easily because I really like this person as a friend and there is definitely chemistry between us.
Regardless of all of this we got in to this pattern of talking every day, usually initiated by her to a level where we would speak in the morning, during the day and when going to bed, sometimes multiple times a day and she would even call me again even half an hour after we had already spoken.
I got to a point where I said that I can't deal with this anymore and decided that we shouldn't speak for a while. This kept on going on for a while and one thing led to another and as usual we ended up speaking to each other again and going down the same path.
In the end I decided that no matter what I tried to do to resolve the situation we would always end up back in the same position so I said to her that I am going to take a day as it comes.
Here's the problem.
We often sleep in the same bed (initiated by her) at least twice a week. We cuddle , kiss, massage and on some occasions have sex. I have to deal with her ups and downs just like in a relationship, everything we do is almost like we are going out with one hitch... If I were to ask her out on a date she would say no!
I've been thinking for like 5 min to give you an answer...well what I can tell from your story here is that I think she's a little bit weird bc she seems to be treating you like a friend nor friend and what I meant by that is that she is just having fun with you as a friend and I'm sorry to tell you that this is bad news. she seems to be intrepid more than you and you encourage her to "always do that with me there is no problem" and that is the problem you have to put a line between you and her until she gives you a real explanation about what she wants from you(a real relationship-or Just having fun) you have to talk to her if you can't stand it no more. Good luck!
You should be straight up with her. Tell her how you honestly feel. This girl seems like she thinks you guys are just friends with benefits. I say either you guys date or you break it off once and for all.
It sounds like this has already change your friendship. What do you want to do? Maybe by saying you will take a day as it comes gave the opening for fun with no pressure. Try not seeing each other. If you can't stay away than maybe there are more feelings there that need to be uncovered.
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