Why do guys have to be such asses when all you do is try to make things right with the world?

I'm sure you must know that not all guys are like that.
Just try to be choosier next time that you select a boyfriend. You'll get a good one sooner or later.

Yes, there are a lot of asses out there, but not all of us are like that. To be fair, I've dated girls that I did everything possible for and I'm talking to the point of stupid. Example- she's on the couch and the TV remote is at the other end of the coffee table. So she would call me in to hand her the remote cause she was curled up in her blanket, while I was in the bedroom. In the end she left me.

So trust me, there are guys who have worked hard to keep a girl and been done wrong as well. My advice, it's great to not be a quitter, but if a guy gets abusive- end it. Being tough is one thing, taking crap like that is another. Don't expect a guy to change cause people in general don't change unless something very big happens. It's best to move on and keep looking for the guy that fits what you're looking for.

I hope you also got rid of your best friend... :)
Maybe his intention was not to have a long lasting relationship, but collect another trophy. I know of guys that do that, and their intention is, make the girl breakup with you, but yet, try to get some while you can....

First, I would like to say that the guy was a jerk for cheating on you and being abusive. There is just no excuse for that in my opinion.

To answer your question though, for most guys, if they aren't saying or doing anything abnormal, then the relationship is fine with them. With guys, no news is good news. If they aren't about to propose to you and they aren't talking about the relationship then you can be almost certain that it is going great as far as they are concerned. Sometimes women can screw up perfectly good relationships by trying to fix (or endlessly talk about) problems that from the guy's perspective, don't exist. Then, when all of the talking starts it tends to put men on the defensive because from our perspective the woman has a problem with the relationship and we don't know why she always wants to talk about it and why she is acting like there is a problem. I don't know if that's what happened to you. It sounds like you got lucky and found out what a jerk this guy was before things got too far. However, I have seen many relationships go down in flames because of a woman trying to "fix" a relationship that wasn't broken and then getting more and more clingy and weird as things got worse.

Don't be so quick to lump all guys in this category. It sounds like you were in a relationship with a really bad guy. We're not all like him. Most guys would really appreciate a girl like you that tries to keep a relationship going. Dump him, if you haven't already, and keep looking for a decent guy. There are a lot of them out there, looking for someone just like you! Don't give up!