Love-how do you know its real?

You know you have the right one when he goes out of his way to impress you, and I don't mean impress you only BEFORE he gets you in bed. The right one will continue to do the things a boyfriend should do.
Next time you have one like that, don't let him slip through your fingers. ;-)

I think you just know. Both of the girls I've cared deeply for, I could feel it in my heart, my gut, my mind, and the little voice inside. If there's any question in you about whether you love someone, my opinion is that you don't. You may care for them deeply, but not as much as you are able to.

I don't get what you mean about losers and letting the good ones slip by.

Some people are lucky enough to say that they met such and such person, and from just that first look they knew it was the one. That has never happened to me, but from my own experience, as they years have gone by, and dating experience has accumulated, I finally realized what was it that I wanted in a woman. Once I narrowed that down, I started looking for a girl that matched those qualities, and once I found a girl that met those requirements, that loving/caring feeling came with time. However, some of my female friends have told me that they met their husband and they had a funny feeling from day one. Now, females are more intuitive that way, so that could be true.

Now you do mention you're only attracting losers....maybe you need to step back and analyze what is it that is important to you in a relationship. Once you have that defined, then you will see how easy it is to weed out the loser guys.