My boyfriend apparently has been keeping track of our dates (20) and number of times we have had sex (apparently 9). He has also told me I am like a vixen because when we are alone at one another's place, he goes crazy. He seems to really love my body. When we have sex, he seems to not be able to get enouugh (and literally kisses my as@) and everything else. He told me I'm like a vixen on Sat morning after he stayed over Friday night. And last week, he sent a msg which said he was distracted all day because he was thinking of me in thigh high stockings.
He is great as far as initiating everything - dates, calls, etc. Things have been going really well in the 2 months we have been dating. I have only been a bit surprised because after we were out on Saturday he was over and told me that he thinks he has a tendency to overreact and so he thinks we should slow down esp. with sleeping over since that would quicken things. That threw me off because he has been the one setting the pace (we see each other 3x a week 90% of those are his suggestions). The next day, Sunday - he still acted normal (initiated tex msgs telling me how he enjoyed himself sitting with me just listening to music on my couch (no sex then) and was thinking of me in thigh high stockings - he has a thing). Then he also called me just to see how I was doing in the evening, acting like nothing changed.
I think he thinks he's falling for you too quick and may think he's losing his freedom or it could be his friends telling him he needs to ease up. Either way he has it bad for you and just let things happen don't question it unless things change dramatically. (he stops calling as much doesn't say certain sweet things etc) hope that helps.
Yeah his comment surprised me because even Friday evening he told me he was thinking of taking a vacation for 3 weeks but since we have been dating, now he thinks he should make it shorter and also that I could come for part of it. . . - 11 months ago
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Well that's good sounds like he's a keeper. He def likes you though. His friends could be teasing him or another minor detail. I wouldn't worry though he isn't going anywhere. - 11 months ago
I think he realizes that he can get a little infatuated at times and recognizes that he can be a little obsessive. In doing this the fire you to have between you could get extinguished as fast as it was lit up. He could be sturggling with wanting to be with you but not rushing things. I would talk to him about it and find out what he is thinking to know for sure. I used to have a tendancy to rush relationships and get all infatuated. The problem is I would get bored after a while because I didn't take my time to get to know the guy I was dating. I decided to take my time and from then on I found it was much sweeter.
Thanks - you may be onto something. He remembers pretty much everything I've said e.g. I said I like pumpkin and on Sat he told me that bakery nearby can still make pumpkin pie if he orders one day in advance. He does things like that a lot so that's why his comment was confusing. I'm not sure I want to discuss this with him. It seems like if it is true or not, I'm just better of slowing it down myself (being less available etc.). No? - 11 months ago
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Well if you slow it down and you don't really discuss it with him he may feel like you are losing interest in him. If he brought it up to you it means he is ok with talking about it. I would start out a conversation by saying, "Remember how you told me you wanted to slow things down a bit? Well I don't mind doing that. It's not that I'm not into you it's just that I want to respect your wishes. - 11 months ago
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Yes that's a good point and there is a way to do it quickly like you said. I want to make sure it is not some long complicated discussion. I don't enjoy such things, especially 2 months into dating. You know? - 11 months ago
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No one does. But having a short conversation about it can prevent problems in the long run. Not only that but conversations like that help you determine how you two will get along in the long run. Eventually you'd have to have the conversation. - 11 months ago
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I guess he is really acting the same because now he has sent me a msg to see if I want to watch a movie tonight. I think I will ask him afterwards what he meant because this is not clear from this behavior. We have just had one day absence (Sunday). - 11 months ago
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Communication in any functioning healthy relationship is key. - 11 months ago
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Yes I agree and I think I will def bring up the topic tonight. - 11 months ago
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