What makes a person clingy?

there are not really any guidelines to go along, just contact who it is you like whenever you feel like it as long as its okay with him. You will need to ask him and figure out what's fine and what's not. But texting and calling several times a day is usually ok at first, but gets old really fast.

Don't worry about it. Your a girl. Girls hate clingy guys. Guys don't mind clingy girls. As long as you don't plan out your whole future with a guy you can be as clingy as you want. There's nothing wrong with a woman who is overly affectionet. I like that. I wish girls felt the same way about us guys. :( but to girls clingyness is a turnoff.

well there was this girl once with whom I exchanged msn addys and she was a bigger girl. at first I thought she was just shy, right? and I don't discriminate by looks much and kind of like big girls because theyre a handful ^_^ but this girl did a few things that threw me for a loop - when we were flirting she was like "im very patient" (uh, that doesn't make you look attractive. id be more drawn to you if I knew you had options) and then she brought her mom the next day (creepy) and then she talked to her mom about me apparently (creepy) and then she was like "do you remember what I look like?" (uh yeah. do you think I was blind when I asked you for- christ she has body image issues and is lacking confidence this is sooo obvious)

so I kind of let her down softly. why? because those unresolved issues would have made her clingy. as. f***. I could already picture her stuck to my arm like a parasite trying to prop up her own status anywhere I went. probably showing up places without any notice to "be with me" *shudder*

ugh f*** I need a shower. I feel like I want to go dip myself into a pool chlorine bleach and scrub my body with steel wool.

so there, now you know what clingy means. :)

Another cling factor to avoid is letting the guy hang out with his friends without always tagging along. Don't get me wrong, it's wonderful for a guy to introduce his significant other to his friends to get acquainted, and if they get along famously, so much the better. I speak from personal experience on this one.

Several years back, my best friend of now 20 years dated a girl that didn't seem to like the fact that he had a life before he was with her. Every time me and the guys made plans with our friend, the girlfriend always ended up coming, whether she was invited or not. There's times of course when we did invite her, but there were also occasions when we just wanted "guy time", and she didn't respect him enough to let him do that once in a while (meanwhile, he completely respected her space and time).

She had a significant amount of baggage and paranoid self-esteem issues, to the point where being around her was intolerable. We all toasted a round of beers amongst ourselves when our friend finally broke up with her after 2 years - and that was a LONG 2 years for our friendship. He has since met a terrific, well-adjusted girl who he's probably going to marry one day, and I couldn't be happier for him.

Guys are less chatty in general, and we spend more time not talking both away from and in the presence of friends. Have you ever seen a guy text another guy like a girl texts another girl? Then don't expect a guy to comfortably switch from guy-guy conversation levels to girl-girl conversation levels when it's guy-girl time.

It's kind of unfair for both sides. Guys will feel overwhelmed, and girls will feel under-appreciated. Working out the middle ground is hard, but that's true for ALL aspects of a relationship.

ok the things thatREALLY drove me nuts with my Boyfriend were the following

he texxted me a million times a day about absolutely nothing
like one time I went to the beach and I had no service which I told him but when I got bars again ihad no joke 40 text messages!

he called all the tim like evry hour or two if I wasn't answering his text messages

he never let me have "friend" time he always wanted to be with me which was cute at first but then it got annoyying after like a week

when we were watching a movie he was always like touching me like in a REALLY WEIRD WAY not like groping just.. like rubbing and petting... blech

not nessicarily clingy but he told his mom ALL about me and us and everything he even put her on the phone once... weird
so this realtionship lasted for like a month that was all I could take the listed things above are BIG no nos

You know I read a article the other day the 10 things that men want to say to there women but can't. The article hit home with me. The guy was talking about how him and his boy were having a guys night you know playing golf going to the pub, and he hated it how his women feels she has to call him and see what he's doing, he said its not like she didn't already know and I just thought about that. IF we tell our men were going to get our nails done they leave us to enjoy ourselfs and get our nails done. I'm in a really good relationship right now, I text him maybe twice a day and that good for me. I remember I would call my ex and he wouldn't answer, than I would get soo worked up with not knowing like why isn't he answering? what is he doing? I would call like every 10 min and he wouldn't answer me all day. So when he would call me the next morning I would be all pissy with him and he looked me in the eyes and said I knew you were going to do this. That's why I didn't wanna call you back yesterday I was having a good night and I didn't want fight or justify myself. I say do your own things guys are soo attratced to that and will be more attraced to you if your more go with the flow like them. Mine seems to be responding very well and when we see each other we always have things to talk about. Good Luck

no not really, just don't call every 5 min, just give them one call and leave a message and that's good. text when you want. When it come to seeing him just ask if he wants to hang out with you want too. just don't get crazy and become a stocker lol

Yeah it's hard not to be clingy especially if you like that person. I wonder how people can stay together so long. Guys are hard to please.

Here are a few things that I do:

1. Let him call you more than you call him. Same thing applies to texting, spare the text messages out and don't text him every hour.
2. Get a life, hang out with your friends, clean the house, STAY BUSY! Even if you really don't have a life, don't let him know that.
3. It will be hard, but don't be available to him all the time. Let there be a time where when he calls, don't answer the phone, or cancel a dinner plan. He'll wonder what you are doing. Guys love the chase!

i always wondered the same thing, but I read in a magazine that when you start liking a person, you should only spend 2 -3 days a week with them max for the first month or two. This way mystery keeps the relationship going, its important to have your own life, and not loose sight of who you are and your friends as well, when you are crushin on a guy. That turns out to be a turnoff, when the girl starts not having friends anymore because she's too busy with him.

trust me, try your hardest, when you feel that you are are trying your best not to call, try harder. it will only help you out.
but I don't think you should always wait for the other person, if you want to call, then call, but don't make it a habit, and don't make hanging out an everyday thing that you are expected to do.


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This is my brothers description of being clingy, always wanting to be around the person you like and not wanting them to go anywhere or being obsessed.