I know sometimes you meet a guy out etc and they say they'll call to be polite if you give them your number. This isn't something I do often as I don't go around offering my number and if someone who I'm not interested in asks me for my number I don't give it to them to be polite. I may tell them I'm involved with them or some white lie to save myself and they're feelings.
But a week ago I met this guy everything seemed to go great I was surprised at how easily we were chatting and having a laugh. Then a few mins before it was time to say goodbye he said 'I must get your number off you' so I gave it to him. We were both going home to our hometowns that day for christmas holidays when it was time for goodbye I said have a nice holiday etc and he said 'I'll be in touch over the holidays'.
That is a week ago and I haven't heard a thing. Ok technically I know he has another weeks holidays so they're not over yet but its been a week so its unlikely he's going to call. What I want to know is why bother to ask for a number and specify the general time you'll call if you've no intention of calling??? It's not like I was putting pressure on him to call so why bother???
Update: Sorry I meant to say 'I may tell them I'm involved with someone else' above to save me from giving out my number and their feelings.
If you can shed any light on this for me then it would be appreciated as its very annoying!!!!
8 months ago
I jumped in on this thread a little late, but I thought I'd add my comment here. I'd give him a couple more days to call. He could be busy with the holidays, family, etc. If he doesn't call soon, be prepared to write him off. I personally have had this happen to me, in reverse. I got a girl's number; called her, then it was like she really didn't want to talk to me after all.
I guess this cuts both ways; I think a guy should always call within a reasonable time if he gets a girl's number; but that's just me. There could be any number of reasons why he didn't call, and not all are nice to hear. He could have just changed his mind about you. If he doesn't call by the 3rd or 4th of Jan, forget him and move on.
Hi thanks for the advice, yeah I hear what your saying I have kinda put it down to we had a great night and that's it, I think your right about the calling within a reasonable time, but maybe he just doesn't want to plain and simple and that's fair enough! - 8 months ago
Hi, thanks for your help. I did think about this and if he's just not interested that's fine, but the thing is there were none of his friends around we left all our friends and went for food and drinks alone so there was no one else around to impress! - 8 months ago
Friends don't have to be there, but when he gets to his destination he can brag about how many numbers he got....guys do actually do this type of behavior. - 8 months ago
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Ah okay....well that's a silly way for a man to behave but now that you mention it he did say he had missed calls from his friends wondering where he was so maybe that is the case and he just wanted it to be known that he was off with a girl & got her num! - 8 months ago
The couple of times this happened to me, I got the number, and I meant to call, and I was dying to call, but every time I picked up the phone to call, I got nervous. A day went by, 2 days went by, next thing I know, I figured, 'well, if I call now it will be odd...' So I ended up not calling even though I wanted to call.
I think nowadays is best to get emails....anyway, maybe he got nervous, and like me, thought too much about calling, and well, now he thinks is too late to call....
Hi thanks for your answer, what you said could very possibly be true, if it is it makes me feel slightly better even if it is a little sad to miss out on what could be a lot of fun, but we all get nervous! - 8 months ago
Maybe he just got caught up with his vacation travels. It wouldn't be such a bad idea to call him if you got his number too. Send him a text or just call and ask how his holiday was. ;) But be careful not to make it awkward.
Hi there, thanks for your answer and your help, I suppose that is still a possibility, he is on vacation for another week still so maybe he's busy with family & friends, I guess its possible. I didn't get his number to make any contact! - 8 months ago
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