What are the real alternatives to meeting people in the bar, if any?

Believe me, there is some girl waiting for you to talk to her. I completely agree with you that it is hard to meet new people. Even being in college, I can't understand why it's so hard. My friends at work and at school are all dating, engaged, or married, and they think it's the strangest thing that I can't meet someone. I go to parties, I go to clubs and bars, I go to student meetings: I am feel like I am the permanent wall flower. So you would not be a creep at all if you approached me at a book store or coffee shop. Hell, you could start a conversation with me on a bus and I would be over joyed if you asked for my phone number.

Book Store.Library.(brainy girls are hot and most certainly underrated!) heck.I've noticed that the best time to meet members of the opposite persuasion is while traveling.i.e; while on planes, trains, subways, etc. - Orr.join a local / intermural sports team. Can't think of much else off the top of my head but give it a try.

Okay this is a new discovery for myself, but my friend and I have been walking his dogs in the local dogpark in the morning and there are a lot of women there. I don't know if it's like a new years resolution to start waking and exercising more but it seemed a little odd because it's a little cold where I live at this time if the year. But because of the dogs, everyone talks to everyone. Also I like this one because of the way you see others interact with their pet. It tells you a lot more about them then if they were in a store, or at a restaurant. Plus if you are there and meet someone you already share something in common. Pets. This one is pretty interesting.

I agree with That-Guy below. Join a co ed sport league, like softball or volleyball. Do volunteer work you find genuinely moving that involves both sexes. Take a continuing education class that you are interested in and make some female friends and go from there.

Just try to make genuine female friends (chicks you would have fun hanging out with, with no interest in sex) and ask them to hook you up. You could try to help them meet a guy who is perfect for them and if it works out kind of trade matchmaker roles. Heck, join a singles group. If you meet someone you hit it off with, who cares where you meet them.

Write out what kind of girl you want, and usually hit it off with. Then how you will develop yourself to get that girl. Then go hang out where you would find that girl. Make sure it is something you genuinely enjoy doing. If you don't really like bars, go meet girls doing something you really like.

Don't be a creep, but don't let worrying about coming off like a creep keep you from taking a chance and talking to a girl. If you are truthful about your intentions and are being genuine, women may think you are their type or they might not, but they will respect you for being honest and being yourself.

Look at what ladygator81 said, it doesn't matter where you talk to girls. If they like you they will be glad you talked to them. I have learned this lesson in life, if you don't go out and try to make it happen it wont. Don't ever let self doubt keep you from taking a shot at a girl you might really hit it off with.

What do you enjoy doing? Pick up a new activity that involves social interactions and it does not have to be densely female populated. Also it will allow you to be a little more comfortable with your surroundings.

Example: if you join a tennis club, car club or Gym aerobics class. You'll meet new people (male and female) who have their own spider tree of friends that could be introduced to you as well. You're 25-29, where do you work? no one from work can introduce you to new people?

Woman in bars automatically assume all guys are out there for the same reason, so I can see where your coming from. Nothing is going to change the way they think. You could always try clubs, but girls there have the same intention. There are other places although it may be harder finding a girl that would fit the right aspects of what your searching for. Local parks, coffee shops, restaurants, malls, parties, clubs, even libraries. The only hard part is determining if they are single, straight, sane, and interested.

I don't think girls would think you are creepy, just remember to not give them the wrong impression. You will eventually get the hang of it after the first few tries. Besides, it's always nice to try something new.